The Caregiver's Journey

“There’s no perfect option out there, and there’s no community that’s going to check every single box.” — Kelly Graffius Are you facing the moment you hoped would never come, trying to choose the right memory care community for your loved one? If you are not sure where to start, you are not alone. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we know how emotional and complicated this decision can feel. We’re sharing six practical tips from Kelly Graffius, certified senior advisor and president of OASIS Senior Advisors in Roswell, Georgia, who has guided countless families through this exact process. If you are early in your dementia journey, you may start out evaluating independent or assisted living. No matter where you begin, this often leads to evaluating memory care as well, so this is our focus here. Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/70-choosing-the-right-memory-care-community-six-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyhttps://www.oasissenioradvisors.com/locations/roswell-ga/community-guide/Kelly Graffius phone +1 678-753-8155.Checklist https://thecaregiversjourney.org/guides/#guidesThe Caregiver’s Journey Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap: https://roadmap.thecaregiversjourney.org/ Available as an interactive page on our website that walks you through the three stages of your dementia family caregiver journey. Includes the option to download the guide for free. Takeaways Tip 1: Know your goals. Tip 2: Decide on your preferred geographic location. Tip 3: Decide on your all in budget. Tip 4: Understand the care component. Tip 5: Go on a tour. Tip 6: Consider using an expert Read More in This Blog https://thecaregiversjourney.org/70-choosing-the-right-memory-care-community-six-essential-tips/

Did your loved one recently receive a diagnosis of dementia? Are you at a loss for what to do next? Maybe you’re overwhelmed because you can’t find the information you need — or maybe it’s the opposite, and you’re drowning in so many conflicting resources that you don’t know where to start. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we know how disorienting those first weeks after a diagnosis can be. That’s why we created the Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap — 20 steps to guide you through your caregiving journey, organized into the three stages of dementia caregiving: in the beginning, the messy middle, and later on. (If you want to hear more about all three stages, check out Podcast and Blog 66.) In this episode, we’re walking through the first six steps of the roadmap — the steps we recommend you take right after diagnosis, while you’re in the “in the beginning” stage. You can find the full, interactive roadmap, along with a free downloadable guide, at thecaregiversjourney.org. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/68-dementia-caregiving-roadmap-v4-steps-1-6-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyThe Caregiver’s Journey Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap: https://roadmap.thecaregiversjourney.org/ Available as an interactive page on our website that walks you through the three stages of your dementia family caregiver journey. Includes the option to download the guide for free. Takeaways We discussed the first 6 steps: Step 1: Reach out for guidance Step 2: Update legal documents, end of life planning and other long term care plansStep 3: Understand the financial situation Step 4: Find support groupsStep 5: Educate yourself on early caregiving journey topicsStep 6: Investigate the US Medicare GUIDE program Read More in This Blog https://thecaregiversjourney.org/68-the-first-six-steps-to-take-after-a-dementia-diagnosis/

Have you ever felt overwhelmed searching for the right information at the right time, or found yourself drowning in conflicting resources that leave you more confused than when you started? You’re not alone. Dementia family caregiving is a long journey, and it looks very different depending on where you are in it. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we built the Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap to help you find the right resources at the right time. As with all our resources, it’s a free, 20-step roadmap available on our website thecaregiversjourney.org. The roadmap page also includes a self-assessment tool to help you identify which caregiving stage you’re in right now. Revisit this assessment tool throughout your caregiving journey to help you know the caregiving stage you’re currently in. Let’s walk through the three distinct stages of dementia family caregiving so you know what to expect and where to focus your energy. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/66-what-stage-of-dementia-caregiving-are-you-in-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyThe Caregiver’s Journey Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap: https://roadmap.thecaregiversjourney.org/ Available as an interactive page on our website that walks you through the three stages of your dementia family caregiver journey. Includes the option to download the guide for free. Takeaways The three stages of dementia family caregiving and the self-assessment tool on the caregiving roadmap page of our website, thecaregiversjourney.org. The first stage is “In the Beginning.”The second stage is “The Messy Middle.”The third stage is “Later On.” If our self-assessment tool shows you are further along in your journey, start there. Once you feel confident in where you are, we encourage you to go back and explore the earlier steps. You may find helpful tips that apply to where you are today, even if those steps were designed for an earlier part of the journey. Read More in This Blog https://thecaregiversjourney.org/66-what-stage-of-dementia-caregiving-are-you-in/

“When families are prepared — physically, emotionally, logistically — they are able to handle these moments a lot differently. There’s less panic, less guilt, and a little bit more empowerment.” — Dr. Taylor Rush One minute, everything’s fine. The next minute, your loved one is on the floor. If fall prevention isn’t on your radar yet — or if you’re waiting until after the first fall happens — you’re not alone. But there’s a lot you can do right now to be better prepared. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we know firsthand how frightening falls can be — and how much the fear of a fall can affect both the person you’re caring for and yourself. We’re sharing five practical tips drawn from the expertise of Dr. Taylor Rush, clinical health psychologist and director of behavioral sciences and interdisciplinary programs at the Cleveland Clinic Center for Neurological Restoration. Taylor specializes in chronic neurological conditions including Parkinson’s and movement disorders, with a deep focus on supporting care partners through the challenges they face every day. Let’s walk through five essential tips for preventing falls, handling them when they happen, and managing the emotional aftermath — for both you and your loved one. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/64-falling-spot-risks-stay-calm-heal-afterwards-five-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyTaylor Rush: https://www.linkedin.com/in/taylor-rush-phd-488149352/Cleveland Clinic for Neurological Restoration: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/departments/neurological/depts/neurological-restorationThe Caregiver’s Journey Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap: https://roadmap.thecaregiversjourney.org/ Available as an interactive page on our website that walks you through the three stages of your dementia family caregiver journey. Includes the option to download the guide for free. Takeaways We shared 5 tips: Know your loved one's fall risk factorsReduce risk with practical prevention strategiesStart the conversation early — and have a planStay calm and assess — don't panic in the momentManage the emotional aftermath of a fall Read More in This Blog https://thecaregiversjourney.org/64-falling-spot-risks-stay-calm-heal-afterwards-five-essential-tips/

“I don’t think any of us should be trying to assist a person with dementia without first walking in their shoes.” — PK Beville, Ph.D. Have you ever wondered what it actually feels like to live with dementia? Do you find yourself struggling to understand why your loved one behaves the way they do, wishing you could see the world through their eyes- even for a moment? There’s a powerful tool that can help you do exactly this. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we know how much empathy and understanding matter in day-to-day care. We’re sharing insights today from PK Beville, Ph.D., founder of the global nonprofit Second Wind Dreams® and inventor of the Virtual Dementia Tour, a simulation experience that has changed how nearly five million people worldwide understand and care for people living with dementia. If you’re following along with the Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap, this is part of Step Seven — educating yourself. You can find the full roadmap as an interactive page on our website at thecaregiversjourney.org. Steps one through six help you build your foundation right after a diagnosis. Steps seven through ten are about deepening your understanding, and the Virtual Dementia Tour is one of the essential resources we recommend in this phase. Let’s explore three essential tips — from understanding what the Virtual Dementia Tour is, to applying what you learn at home, to finding one near you. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/62-what-is-a-virtual-dementia-tour-three-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneySecond Wind Dreams: https://secondwind.org/The Caregiver’s Journey Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap: https://roadmap.thecaregiversjourney.org/ Available as an interactive page on our website that walks you through the three stages of your dementia family caregiver journey. Includes the option to download the guide for free. Takeaways We shared 3 tips: Learn what happens in a Virtual Dementia TourApply what you learn at homeFind a virtual dementia tour near you Read More in This Blog https://thecaregiversjourney.org/62-what-is-a-virtual-dementia-tour-three-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias-2/

"While we can't reverse aging, regular mental activity — these exercises, regular cognitive engagement — helps keep cognitive skills stronger for longer. It's like exercising your body." — Dr. Daniel Fenton What if you could make small changes and have more intentional conversations with your loved one that actively stimulate their brain? You're not doing one more thing — you're simply being more deliberate about conversations you're already having and sneaking in more benefits along the way. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we understand how meaningful it is to find ways to help our loved ones function at their best for longer. We're sharing insights about cognitive stimulation therapy (CST) from Dr. Daniel Fenton, head of neuropsychological services at New Days, a virtual clinic specializing in care for people with mild cognitive impairment and early-stage dementia. Let's explore three essential tips for bringing cognitive stimulation therapy into your everyday conversations at home. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/60-use-cognitive-simulation-therapy-at-home-three-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyhttps://www.newdays.ai/The Caregiver’s Journey Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap: https://roadmap.thecaregiversjourney.org/ Available as an interactive page on our website that walks you through the three stages of your dementia family caregiver journey. Includes the option to download the guide for free. Takeaways We shared 3 tips: Tip 1: Create A Simple Structure Tip 2: Leverage These Types Of Activities Tip 3: Don’t Forget To Wrap Up And Reflect Read More in This Blog https://thecaregiversjourney.org/60-three-tips-for-using-cognitive-stimulation-therapy-at-home/

Have you ever heard of a certified senior advisor? Would you even know what you needed or how to find one? You're not alone if the answer is no — and there are clear steps you can take to get the right help at the right time. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we understand how overwhelming it can be to recognize when something has changed and know where to turn next. We're sharing insights from Cynthia Perthuis, principal owner of Senior Care Authority in Southwest Florida and a certified senior advisor, about finding, evaluating, and implementing solutions along the caregiving journey. If you're following along with the Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap, this aligns with Step Eight. You can find the roadmap as a downloadable digital guide on the guides page of our website, and we've also created it as an interactive page where you can click directly into each step. Let's explore three essential tips for navigating this process — from recognizing when something is wrong, to finding the right help, to building a strategy that works for your whole family. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/58-what-is-a-certified-senior-advisor-three-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneySociety of Senior Care Advisors: https://www.csa.us/Cynthia Perthuis: https://www.seniorcare-nyfl.com/eldercare-consultants-in-new-york-city-and-southwest-florida.html#aboutThe Caregiver’s Journey Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap: https://roadmap.thecaregiversjourney.org/ Available as an interactive page on our website that walks you through the three stages of your dementia family caregiver journey. Includes the option to download the guide for free. Takeaways We shared 3 tips: Tip 1: Evaluate your situation Tip 2: Reach out for help Tip 3: Create a strategy Read More in This Blog https://thecaregiversjourney.org/58-what-is-a-certified-senior-advisor-three-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias-2/

"One of the hardest parts in spousal caregiving is accepting that we're no longer just partners. We're now caregiver and care receiver. The loss of our emotional and physical partner and the emotional responsibilities we're taking on can really take an enormous toll." Are you struggling to find balance between being a spouse and being a caregiver? Do you find yourself wondering when the shift happened—when your partner became your patient? Have you noticed yourself "forgetting to be a spouse" because you're so focused on getting the caregiving right? We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we've experienced firsthand the complex role transition that happens when your spouse becomes your care receiver. This journey isn't a sudden switch that flips on diagnosis day—it's a slow, gradual transition that unfolds over years. There's a moment when you realize your relationship has fundamentally changed. Your spouse, your partner, your companion—they're still there. But the person you used to bounce ideas off of can't be that person for you anymore. This transition brings unique challenges, from managing new responsibilities to redefining intimacy to letting go of promises made years ago. Let's explore four essential tips for navigating the changing role from spouse to caregiver while preserving your relationship and your own wellbeing. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/ Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourney Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/ Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/56-when-your-spouse-becomes-your-patient-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourney Takeaways We shared 4 tips: 1. Find the balance in your changing role 2. Give yourself permission to get help 3. Keep connection while intimacy is redefined 4. Give yourself permission to let go of promises you made years ago. Read More in This Blog https://sueryansolutions.medium.com/the-changing-role-navigating-the-transition-from-spouse-to-caregiver-90acd5fde819?postPublishedType=repub

“An accurate early dementia diagnosis is essential. It can make a significant difference in how families navigate the diagnosis.” Esther Kane, MSN, RN Your loved one has been diagnosed with dementia… but do you ever wonder if they’ve been diagnosed with the correct type? Do you find yourself thinking: “This diagnosis doesn’t quite fit what I’m seeing.” You’re not alone. Getting the correct diagnosis opens the right doors to support, care, and community that you might not have known existed. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we’ve learned firsthand that not all dementias are the same. Understanding the specific type of dementia your loved one has ensures they’re receiving the correct medical care and helps you connect with the education, targeted support groups, and research opportunities tailored to your loved one’s specific needs. In this post, we’re sharing insights from Esther Kane, a registered nurse and the Director of Support and Education for the Association for Frontotemporal Degeneration (AFTD). As a director of nursing in multiple memory care facilities, Esther’s entire career has been supporting and caring for individuals living with all types of dementia. In her role at AFTD, Esther works to advance early, accurate FTD diagnoses in order to improve the quality of life for those impacted by the disease. We’re exploring five essential tips for ensuring your loved one receives the correct dementia diagnosis and how to leverage this knowledge for better care. Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/54-why-the-right-dementia-diagnosis-matters-five-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Alzheimer’s Association 10 signs of dementia: https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signsNavigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap guide: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/guides/Association for Frontotemporal Dementia (AFTD): https://www.theaftd.org/Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourney Takeaways Tip 1: Learn More About Dementia and Push to Dig Deeper Tip 2: Find Your Specific Diagnosis Community, Resources, and Support Tip 3: Monitor Disease Progression and Prepare Tip 4: Investigate Clinical Trials Tip 5: Understand the Genetic Risk Associated with This Diagnosis Read More in This Blog https://sueryansolutions.medium.com/53-why-the-right-dementia-diagnosis-matters-five-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias-b6afe1179898?postPublishedType=repub

Are you prepared if a major storm threatens your area? Do you know whether to evacuate or shelter in place with your loved one who has dementia? Have you created a communication plan that accounts for potential power outages and cell tower failures? We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we understand how storm season brings critical decisions that require advance planning. Whether your loved one lives at home or in a care community, preparing for storms demands special considerations for people living with dementia. Recently, we spoke with Celeste Lynch, Executive Director at Moorings Park Grand Lake in Naples, Florida. With nearly 40 years of experience in senior living leadership, emergency planning, and resident safety, Celeste shared invaluable insights on storm preparedness from both the care community and at-home perspectives. If you're following along with the Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap Guide, today's topic aligns with Step 14: Create a Care Plan and Family Emergency Plan. Let's explore four essential tips for weathering storms safely with your loved one who has dementia. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/52-preparing-for-stormy-weather-four-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap guide: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/guides/Moorings Park community: https://www.mooringspark.org/ FEMA assistance programs: https://www.fema.gov/DisasterAssistance.gov: https://www.disasterassistance.gov/Relief organizations such as the Red Cross: https://www.redcross.org/Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourney Takeaways We shared 4 tips: Preparing Ahead of Time Decide whether you will shelter in place or evacuateStrengthen Your Communication Plan Before, During, and After the Storm Post storm, safely get them back in their routine Read More in This Blog here

Are you struggling to pull your family together to create a working support system for someone living with dementia? Do you find family members disagreeing on what needs to be done or how to help? You're not alone, and there's a path forward. We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we've learned that transforming family dynamics into effective teamwork is one of the most challenging—yet most rewarding—aspects of the caregiving journey. In this episode, we spoke with Dr. Barry Jacobs, a clinical psychologist and family therapist who brings both professional expertise and personal caregiving experience to this conversation. Barry cared for his mother with vascular dementia and his stepfather with Alzheimer's disease for seven years, and he co-authored the AARP Caregiver Answer Book with his wife, psychologist Julia Mayer. This content aligns with Step 8 of our Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap: Start Planning for the Next Stage of Care, particularly when building your personal support network of family and friends. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes https://thecaregiversjourney.org/50-family-dynamics-in-caregiving-four-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/ Additional Resources Mentioned Barry’s website www.caregiveranswerbook.comBuy the Caregiver Answer Book on Amazon https://amzn.to/4i9V9ZLNavigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap guide https://thecaregiversjourney.org/guides/#guidesSupport the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourney Takeaways Transforming your family into an effective caregiving team isn’t easy. It’s worth the effort — not just for your loved one with dementia — but for every member of your family. These four tips provide a framework: Create consensus (everyone on the same page).Define an ongoing format for decision making (regular meetings with clear rhythm).Build a family caregiving plan (who does what and when).Plan to deal with conflict (don’t let disagreements become disrespectful).

Are you feeling overwhelmed trying to care for aging parents while raising children? Do you find yourself stretched thin between different generations, each with their own unique needs? My name is Sue Ryan. As a caregiver for loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, I understand the unique challenges faced by those in the sandwich generations. I recently spoke with Christy Byrne Yates, a licensed educational psychologist and author of “Building a Legacy of Love: Thriving in the Sandwich Generation.” Christy has personally navigated the challenges of caring for aging parents while raising her own children, and she brings both professional expertise and lived experience to help families thrive during this demanding season of life. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/Email: [email protected], [email protected] Full Show Notes Additional Resources Mentioned Chirstyyates.com - https://www.christyyates.com/Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourney Takeaways Tip 1: C — Choose Your Role as a Caregiver The first step in successfully navigating the sandwich generation is making a conscious choice to embrace your caregiving role. Many people say “I didn’t choose this.” or “I had no choice.” We always have a choice. Even not making a choice is still a choice. Tip 2: A — Address the ‘Elephants’ in the Room Successful sandwich generation caregiving requires having difficult conversations early and often. These are the ‘elephants’ dancing in every family room that everyone sees — but no one wants to discuss. Tip 3: R — Recharge Through Ruthless Self-Care Recharging takes on critical importance when you’re caring for multiple generations. Self-care isn’t selfish — it’s essential for everyone you’re caring for. Tip 4: E — Enlist Your Support Team You’re not meant to journey alone, and this is especially true for sandwich generation caregivers who face multiple competing demands. Building a comprehensive support team is essential for sustainable caregiving. Tip 5: S — Surrender Control and Embrace Grace Perhaps the most challenging aspect of sandwich generation caregiving is accepting that you cannot control everything, even though you desperately want to. If everyone could just do things your way, life would be so much easier — but that’s not reality. Read More in This Blog here

Have you reached the point where you're now fully responsible for your loved one's care and safety? Do you find yourself guiding others or managing all aspects of their daily needs? You've entered what we call "later on"—the final stage of the caregiving journey, and while some aspects may feel more manageable, new challenges and emotions emerge that require specific attention and planning. This final phase completes our comprehensive 20-step roadmap for dementia caregiving, covering the essential steps when you've moved beyond the messy middle into full caregiving responsibility. Connect with us and share your tips: Website: https://thecaregiversjourney.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecaregiversjourney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecaregiversjourneys/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suearmstrongryan/, https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancytreaster/ Email: [email protected], [email protected] Guide: Navigating Dementia Caregiving Roadmap https://thecaregiversjourney.org/guides/ Donate: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourney Full show notes Additional Resources Mentioned Later On - You are now managing all aspects of their care 18. Plan for their End of Life Service: You may have done this with your loved one just after their diagnosis. If not, do this without them now:26 minute TCJ podcast: 30. End of Life Service PreplanningTCJ blog: 30. End of Life Service PreplanningLeverage this End of Life Planning Worksheet. 19. Call in hospice. If you are not working with palliative care or a US Medicare GUIDE program organization (both of these are able to tell you when it’s time to call in hospice)Find a hospice organization. Get a doctor's referral. Schedule an initial evaluation. It’s almost never too early to get the initial evaluation, so don’t wait.Search ‘hospice’ + ‘your country’ - or in the US - ‘your state’. Scroll down until you get below the sponsored links where it says ‘Places’:Click on ‘More places’ to get a list with a map. Notice rating stars and those located around your area.Schedule an initial consultation with two so you can compare.Educate yourself on when to call in hospice:26 minute TCJ podcast: 29. When To Call In HospiceTCJ blog: 29. When To Call In Hospice. 20. Continue your self-care. Learn about Anticipatory Grief. Read this AARP article:How To Manage Mourning a Loss Before It Happens.Honor your grief, be compassionate with yourself, reach out for support:Each of us navigates the loss of our loved one in our own time and way.It’s reasonable when your caregiving journey ends you may feel any or all of:A sense of relief because your journey has ended and your loved one is no longer suffering, Guilty at the same time because you feel relieved.A loss of your own identity, from prioritizing your loved one for so long.Not sure what to do next.If you feel lost, reach out to your family, support group, faith community, friends, professionals. Most importantly - reach out! Support the nonprofit The Caregiver's Journey: https://give.cornerstone.cc/thecaregiversjourney Takeaways The Three Stages of the Dementia Caregiving Journey 1. In the Beginning - Your loved one receives a diagnosis. 2. The Messy Middle - You begin asserting control; this is when it gets messy!3. Later On - You are managing all aspects of their care.