The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Having stronger, more satisfying orgasms has nothing to do with your age. It’s about understanding your body, your relationship, and what actually works for you now.In this episode, Alexandra Stockwell, MD answers a question from a woman who wants to know how to teach her husband to create the kind of intimacy and orgasms she experienced when she was younger. Her answer goes far beyond what happens in the bedroom.Alexandra breaks the process into three essential areas: cultivating emotional intimacy before sex, slowing down and becoming more attuned to the body during sex, and taking responsibility for your own physical and sexual awareness. She explains why women often need more time to warm up, why moving from the periphery toward the center matters, and how experimenting with edging can expand the intensity of orgasmic experiences.She also emphasizes the importance of knowing your own body. Understanding what feels good, where you like to be touched, and how you respond gives you the ability to communicate with your partner clearly and confidently.In this episode, you'll discover:- Why emotional intimacy sets the stage for sexual intimacy- How to create more time and space for arousal- Why confidence and attunement matter inside and outside the bedroom- How edging can expand erotic energy and orgasmic intensity- Why knowing your own body makes communication with your partner easier- How physical and physiological health factor into sexual pleasureYou don't have to recreate the sex you had in your 20s. You get to discover what feels even better now. May you have richer, more satisfying orgasms, and more intimacy along the way.

When couples feel disconnected sexually, they often focus on sex itself. But one of the most powerful ways to rebuild closeness is found in a different kind of intimacy: non-sexual physical touch.In this episode, Alexandra Stockwell, MD explores how intentional physical affection creates safety, connection, and attunement between partners. From holding hands and cuddling to giving a massage or simply putting an arm around your spouse, these small moments of touch communicate care without creating pressure or expectations around sex.Alexandra also explains why touch often disappears when couples are out of sync sexually, navigating infertility, or simply overwhelmed by parenting. She offers a practical framework for understanding what kind of touch feels best for each partner, including pressure, pace, and location, and explains why being fully present while touching your spouse makes the experience even more meaningful.In this episode, you'll discover:• Why non-sexual touch is essential for emotional and physical intimacy• How to create affection without making your partner feel pressured for sex• The three variables that determine whether touch feels connecting: pressure, pace, and location• Why your attention matters just as much as the physical touch itself• How everyday affection helps your bodies relax and release emotional armor• Why non-sexual touch actually enhances your sexual connectionIntimacy isn't created only through sex. It starts with a hand held gently, an intentional embrace, or simply being fully present with the person you love.

When you're struggling in your marriage, it's natural to focus on what your partner needs to change. But what happens when you turn your attention inward and begin creating more safety and connection within yourself?In this conversation, Alexandra Stockwell, MD welcomes trauma-informed marriage coach and somatic practitioner Becky Aste, who shares the story of taking her own marriage from separation and the brink of divorce to a thriving relationship. After years of therapy, self-development, and trying to understand their patterns, Becky discovered somatic healing and began working with her nervous system in a completely different way.Together, Alexandra and Becky explore the difference between understanding your relationship patterns and actually changing them, how anxious and avoidant nervous systems can get caught in a painful dance, and why becoming more grounded in yourself can send a completely different signal to your partner.In this episode, you'll discover: • Why understanding your relationship patterns isn't enough to change them • What “somatic healing” means and how it impacts your nervous system • How tiny shifts in your own body and behavior change the dynamic between you and your partner • Why an anxious or avoidant partner isn't necessarily uncaring or uninterested • How creating safety within yourself is an invitation for greater connection • Why secure attachment is a learnable skill, not something only developed in childhoodYou don't have to wait for your partner to change before you begin creating a different relationship. Sometimes the most powerful place to start is within yourself, one small moment of safety, presence, and connection at a time. The results are so worthwhile!Connect with Becky Aste:Website: www.idobreakthrough.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste