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You've read the data on men and violence, and it's draining your hope in half the population. Can the numbers survive a fact-check? It's Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1343On This Week's Feedback Friday:For anyone following the saga of Christopher Ahn (episodes 996 and 997) we're ecstatic to share his recent good news!You're moving the whole family in with your wonderful mother-in-law — calmer streets, a big yard, grandma next door, hundreds saved a month. There's just one problem, and he has claws, a grudge against your two sweet cats, and a reputation a stranger once called demonic. Do you draw a line in the litter?A while back, a woman who'd survived real loss and an abusive marriage wondered whether she should set her younger partner free to spare him her past. Now she writes back with an update — and a stranger with an uncannily similar story sends a letter of her own. What did trusting love actually require of them?You're the only woman on an all-male engineering team, finally breaking through and feeling truly seen — until a married colleague mistakes your kindness for something more and says it out loud. Now you still sit a few feet apart every single day. How do you reset a line you never meant to blur?Recommendation of the Week: Mighty Plugs Pure Beeswax Earplugs — moldable beeswax-and-organic-cotton earplugs that conform to your ear like putty, carry a top-rated noise-reduction rating, and stay put through a full night's sleep (waterproof and reusable, too).You're a 25-year-old medical student who clawed your way up from almost nothing, and the statistics you keep reading are quietly draining your faith in half the population. You want one honest perspective that survives a fact-check — a pea-sized reason not to give up on men entirely. Is there one?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Babbel: Get 3 months free with code JORDANQuince: Free shipping & 365-day returns: quince.com/jordanProgressive Insurance: Free online quote: progressive.comAT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for detailsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Lou Valoze ran Ray Khan — one of the ATF's most effective informants ever — then watched the system he served leave the man out to dry.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1341What We Discuss with Lou Valoze:How immigrant convenience store owner Ray Khan unwittingly walked into an ATF sting to buy illegally untaxed cigarettes and emerged as a federal informant who would become one of the agency's most effective assets under handler Lou Valoze.Why Ray's secret weapon was charisma rather than criminal know-how, since his real job was getting dangerous players through the door and leaving the guns-and-drugs arithmetic to Lou and his undercover team.What it actually takes to run a convincing storefront sting, from Lou shadowing a real freight forwarder for six months to the ironclad rules of never letting a gun walk and never overpaying lest a defense lawyer cry entrapment.How the system that relied on Ray repaid him — petty arrests, a corrupt official's vendetta, bogus RICO charges, and two decades of denied legal status — despite the thousands of crime guns and hundreds of kilos he helped pull off the streets.What Ray's real gift can teach the rest of us: the knack for making people want to follow you works in any room, not just the criminal underworld, and paired with relentless resilience it's the engine behind rebuilding after every setback.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Article: Visit article.com/jordan for $50 off your first purchase of $100 or moreBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanButcherBox: Free protein for a year + $20 off first box: butcherbox.com/jordanAT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for detailsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your brother demands you cut off the parents who hurt him years ago, but your kids love their grandparents. Now what? Welcome to Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1339On This Week's Feedback Friday:You're 51, sober, settled — but your brother just went no-contact with your parents over a dark secret from your unconventional cult-and-commune childhood. Now he's demanding you keep your own kids away from them too. Do you owe him solidarity, or are you being pulled into a grudge that was never yours to carry?You were just doing a friendly round of reconnect-with-old-contacts networking — harmless, even thoughtful. So why did one message detonate into a startlingly bitter response from someone you used to work with? What old wound did you accidentally reopen, and how do you respond when goodwill gets thrown back in your face?Your wife left you for a coworker, you tried for a year to win her back, and then a heroic dose of mushrooms — mismeasured, not your fault — sent you to the ER and quietly dismantled your career, your finances, and your sense of who you are. Now you're 37, isolated, and unsure how to even set a goal. Where do you start rebuilding?Recommendation of the Week: WuKong Education. After Jordan and Jen enrolled Jayden and Juni in WuKong's online Mandarin classes — 1-on-1 sessions with certified teachers in China, six days a week — the results spoke for themselves: a kid who once spoke no Chinese now cheers when her homework's ready. Interactive, structured, and built for overseas families, it's a strong pick for anyone trying to get their kids fluent.You're working a full-time job plus two more, your wife works full-time too, and you're still living paycheck to paycheck — and somewhere in there you've started to feel like a failure as a father. You could double your income, but at the cost of your kids' last years at home. Time or money? Or is there a door you haven't noticed yet?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Lufthansa Allegris: Go to Lufthansa.com and search for "Allegris" to learn moreBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanMint Mobile: Shop plans at mintmobile.com/jhsBooking.com: Book your getaway now with booking.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mind Your Body author Nicole Sachs explains how pain is your brain's alarm, and why facing buried feelings can reverse symptoms once thought permanent.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1337What We Discuss with Nicole Sachs:Pain is the brain's protective alarm, not a malfunction. The brain can both create and remove pain. It generates real symptoms to force you to slow down and stop returning to environments it has flagged as unsafe.Symptoms are real, but the source may be misdiagnosed. Chronic pain, IBS, migraines, fatigue, and long COVID aren't imaginary, but the nervous system — not the body part being treated — is often where the real trouble originates.A nervous system stuck in fight-or-flight produces physical illness. When the brain perceives constant "predators" — a hostile boss, money stress, unresolved trauma — it stays in survival mode, driving inflammation, muscle spasm, and nerve pain.Repressed emotion is read by the body as a threat. When difficult feelings go unseen and unfelt, the nervous system treats them as a predator — surfacing as flares, migraines, or chronic conditions long after the original event.You have far more power to heal than you realize. By learning the neuroscience and processing buried emotions through tools like JournalSpeak, people teach the nervous system it's safe — and many reverse chronic symptoms once thought permanent.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: The Cybersecurity Tapes: Listen here: thecybersecuritytapes.comAT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for detailsIQBAR: 20% off: Text "Jordan" to 64,000Booking.com: Book your getaway now with booking.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Assaulted at a Buddhist center known for cover-ups, you were silenced. How do you keep the kids safe when your ex takes them there? It's Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1335On This Week's Feedback Friday:A positive update from the listener who wrote in for interview advice (question two, episode 1324)!Four months ago you earned a shiny promotion to a leadership role — and then quietly kept doing your entire old finance job too, with no transition plan, no extra pay, and a passive manager who'd rather you stayed quiet. The company has the money; they just don't have the incentive. How do you force clarity without getting branded "not a team player"? [Thanks to HR professional Joanna Tate for helping us with this one!]You were sexually assaulted at your kids' father's place of worship — a Buddhist center with a documented history of abuse and cover-ups — and reporting it got you silenced, suppressed, and forced to keep attending. Now you share custody, your ex still brings the kids there, and you're desperate to keep them safe without scaring them. How do you talk to your children about this? [Thanks yet again to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis and attorney Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]Your 83-year-old mother has been "dying" for a decade, bankrolls your life, and uses that money as a leash — keeping you next door, watching from her window, after a childhood betrayal you're still carrying. You feel guilt, shame, and a creeping sense you have no power here. But what if the most uncomfortable question is how much agency you've had all along?Recommendation of the Week: Bose SoundLink Flex — Gabe's everyday Bluetooth speaker and his all-time favorite.Gabe revisits last week's tangle over belief and counseling, then reaches for David Mamet's True and False — a book ostensibly about acting that turns out to be about how we white-knuckle our beliefs instead of simply accepting what's in front of us.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Paka: Paka hoodie & crew socks: go.pakaapparel.com/jordanMarathon Rewards: Sign up today: marathonrewards.comMomentous: 35% off first order: livemomentous.com, code JHSAT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for detailsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

HyperNatural co-founder Chris Kolbe reveals what's hiding in your synthetic clothes, why it matters, and the simple fix that won't break the bank.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1333What We Discuss with Chris Kolbe:Polyester, nylon, and spandex are all plastic used in modern fashion — and most people don't realize they're wearing petrochemicals against their skin. When asked directly if they wear plastic, people say no, while pointing at their synthetic gym shirt.The danger is twofold: plastic itself requires chemicals like phthalates (hormone disruptors) to become soft and pliable, while topical finishes for "quick dry," "wrinkle-free," and "water-resistant" claims form a layered cake of chemicals that comes off first and leaches into the body when activated by heat and sweat.Marketing has sold consumers a false premise over the last 30 years: that it takes plastic to achieve performance. Chris Kolbe, a 30-year apparel industry veteran, argues the industry solved performance while quietly creating a whole new set of health problems.Real-world proof exists where it's hardest to dispute: airline uniforms. Delta's purple polyester uniforms caused health problems so severe that flight attendants had to quit working, prompting lawsuits — a rare case where constant daily wear made cause and effect visible.You don't need to torch your closet or buy $400 underwear — start where exposure is highest. Focus on high-contact items (underwear, socks, leggings, gym shirts, bedding), read labels, ask brands for actual receipts over vibes, and upgrade one item at a time. The closet is just the next frontier after we've cleaned up our food, water, and skincare.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: HyperNatural: 15% off: hypernaturalstyle.com, code 15JORDANLufthansa Allegris: Go to Lufthansa.com and search for "Allegris" to learn moreBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanAT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for detailsButcherBox: Free protein for a year + $20 off first box: butcherbox.com/jordanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your boyfriend rages through walls, jobs, and landlords like a one-man wrecking crew. You've got coping tools—but is coping the goal? It's Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1331On This Week's Feedback Friday:If you want to skip Gabe's thoughts on Brazilian street muggings and the story of the weirdest yoga class of his life, you can take a Vinyasa and jump straight to 13 minutes and 30 seconds.Your marriage crisis got "counseled" by a pastor-and-wife duo who prescribed prayer and a Toblerone. You lost your church, your college friends, and years with your parents. Did the chocolate-and-scripture combo crack the case, or was something else doing the real work?Your sister credits a decentralized, unregulated form of Biblical Counseling with healing her postpartum spiral. Now you're depressed too, convinced misery stems from not obeying Scripture, and you're about to walk into a session built to challenge you on exactly that. Brace for impact?You're a Lutheran pastor with serious thoughts about charlatans slapping "pastor" on a business card. You refer congregants out, see a counselor yourself, and have a hot take coming on whether anyone should stay at a church serving judgment instead of compassion. Mic drop incoming?Recommendation of the Week: Hydrocolloid Roll — a cheaper, better-sticking, washable alternative to Band-Aids that you can cut to size for any scrape, blister, or zit.Your 6'4" disinherited wheat-heir "sweetheart" punches walls, rages at landlords, and has you one outburst from eviction. You've got Al-Anon, jiu jitsu, and Grand Master Carlos' mantra in your corner. Is that armor enough, or is the armor itself the problem?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Lufthansa Allegris: Go to Lufthansa.com and search for "Allegris" to learn moreBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanChime: Open an account in two minutes: chime.com/jhsHiya: 50% off first order: hiyahealth.com/jordanAT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for detailsCastbox: Find, organize, and subscribe to the world's best podcasts: castbox.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Psychics keep wedging themselves into police cases — and grieving families pay the price. Nick Pell explains the grift on Skeptical Sunday!Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by writer and researcher Nick Pell!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1329On This Week's Skeptical Sunday:Psychic detective work traces back to 19th-century spiritualism, which surged after the Civil War and WWI as a grief-coping mechanism — part therapy, part pop religion, part proto-reality TV. The post-WWII pulp era rebranded it as "science," birthing the modern psychic detective archetype.The genre's most-cited "successes" — Etta Smith in the Melanie Uribe case, Dorothy Allison on the John List murders, and Noreen Renier's many TV appearances — all collapse under scrutiny. Police never credited any of them with usable leads, and Allison reportedly tried to bribe cops to vouch for her.Sylvia Browne is the cautionary tale that turns this from harmless grift into genuine harm. She told Amanda Berry's mother her daughter was dead in 2004 — Amanda was alive, held captive in Cleveland until 2013. Mom died never knowing. Browne botched the Shawn Hornbeck case too.Four mechanisms explain every "psychic solved it" story: confirmation bias (remembering hits, forgetting misses), post-hoc reasoning (vague claims retrofitted to fit), emotional vulnerability of grieving families, and Barnum statements — deliberately vague phrases like "I see water" that let your brain fill in the blanks.Real cases get cracked by forensic evidence, behavioral profiling, and community tip lines — the unsexy, methodical work that rarely makes headlines. Families seeking closure are better served by counseling and victim support than by false hope, and learning to spot the four tells above makes anyone a sharper media consumer.Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Lufthansa Allegris: Go to Lufthansa.com and search for "Allegris" to learn moreSimpliSafe Home Security: 50% off + 1st month free: simplisafe.com/jordanWhatnot: Start selling today: whatnot.com/sellZipRecruiter: Learn more at ziprecruiter.com/jordanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A little of something beats a lot of nothing every single time. How a Little Becomes a Lot author Eric Zimmer explains the math of meaningful change.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1327What We Discuss with Eric Zimmer:Real change isn't the cinematic rock-bottom epiphany we love to romanticize — it's the thousands of unglamorous, repeated micro-decisions that follow it. Calling the sponsor instead of the dealer. Driving the long way home. The watershed moment only matters because of what comes after.What feels permanently insurmountable can genuinely vanish as a problem. Eric drove oxycodone to his mom for weeks without flinching, when years earlier he'd have robbed someone at gunpoint for those same pills — proof that cravings don't always require lifelong white-knuckled willpower.All-or-nothing thinking is the silent killer of progress. The protein-powder-and-two-hour-gym-sessions fantasy keeps people doing literally nothing, when a 15-minute walk after dinner would honor the underlying goal and keep momentum alive. A little of something beats a lot of nothing.You can't pull a "feel happy" lever — emotions don't have one. But behavior does, and acting your way into right thinking is often more reliable than thinking your way into right action. Show up, shake hands, do the small thing, and the inner state tends to follow.Get honest about what you actually value by noticing what stays constant across different rooms and moods, not what flickers based on whoever you were just hanging out with. Then make those values easier to live — shrink the action, remove the friction, and let the next good choice be the path of least resistance.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: BetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanArticle: Visit article.com/jordan for $50 off your first purchase of $100 or moreBooking.com: Book your getaway now with booking.comButcherBox: Free protein for a year + $20 off first box: butcherbox.com/jordanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have women ever ruled the world — or did we just make it all up? Jessica Wynn separates feminist folklore from real anthropology here on Skeptical Sunday!Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by writer and researcher Jessica Wynn!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1325On This Week's Skeptical Sunday:The world's most famous "matriarchies" — the Minangkabau, Khasi, Bribri, and Mosuo — share a curious pattern: women hold the property, the lineage, and the daily labor, while men retain the prestigious roles like religious authority, political leadership, and ceremonial titles.The prehistoric "golden age of matriarchy" so beloved by 19th-century theorists and 1970s feminist spirituality has no solid archaeological evidence behind it — but the historical record itself is biased, since colonial chroniclers often erased or ignored female authority structures they didn't recognize.A landmark study of Mosuo communities found women in matrilineal villages had less than half the chronic inflammation rates and notably lower hypertension than women in patrilineal ones — and crucially, men in those same matrilineal villages showed no meaningful health penalty.Patriarchy isn't just costly for women; it quietly taxes men too, pushing them into rigid dominance roles that produce emotional isolation, shorter lifespans, and higher suicide rates — meaning the same structure that disadvantages women also corrodes the men it supposedly elevates.The most useful reframe isn't matriarchy versus patriarchy but dominance versus care — societies organized around reciprocity, redistribution, and consensus produce measurably better well-being across genders, and that's a model anyone can build toward without needing a mythical past to justify it.Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!Connect with Jessica Wynn at Instagram (and Instagram!), and subscribe to her newsletters: Between the Lines and Where the Shadows Linger!And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: The Perfect Jean: 15% off first order: theperfectjean.nyc, code JORDAN15Mint Mobile: Shop plans at mintmobile.com/jhsMomentous: 35% off first order: livemomentous.com, code JHSQuiltmind: Email jordanaudience@quiltmind.com to get started or visit quiltmind.com for more infoSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

90% of Americans privately agree on most issues, yet publicly act like enemies. Author Todd Rose unmasks the collective illusions fueling our division.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1323What We Discuss with Todd Rose:Collective illusions are social lies we all participate in because we mistakenly believe everyone else believes them. On most controversial U.S. issues, around 90% of people privately agree, yet publicly act like they're at war — we're not divided, we're confused and copying each other.Our brains use a flimsy shortcut to gauge group beliefs: the loudest voices repeated the most are assumed to be the majority. On X, 80% of content comes from just 10% of users — fringe extremists who are not remotely representative — yet their volume warps our sense of what "everyone" thinks.Foreign adversaries (China, Iran, Russia) have weaponized this vulnerability with AI-enabled bot armies. Roughly a quarter of social media interactions are with bots, and just 5% well-designed bot presence can dictate group consensus — manufacturing illusions to destroy social trust cheaply and effectively.Conformity is biologically hardwired: agreeing with your group triggers a dopamine reward like hard drugs, while disagreeing fires an error signal that disrupts memory and attention. In one study, people unconsciously shifted their ratings of attractiveness to match a fake group — some literally seeing differently.The good news: these illusions are fragile because they're lies, and shattering them happens at the speed of trust. Have one honest conversation with someone who matters to you, or simply inject uncertainty ("I'm not sure yet") into group conversations. That small act of moral courage cascades faster than you'd ever believe.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: SimpliSafe: 50% off + 1st month free: simplisafe.com/jordanProgressive Insurance: Free online quote: progressive.comQuince: Free shipping & 365-day returns: quince.com/jordanAT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for detailsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

AI is coming for the lawyers, not the plumbers. Pest control founder David Royce explains how blue-collar margins are quietly crushing white-collar dreams.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1321What We Discuss with David Royce:The unsexy blue-collar industries everyone overlooks when starting a business have fatter margins and recession-proof durability. AI can write legal briefs and ship code, but it isn't crawling into your attic to evict termites any time soon.Skill becomes a ceiling unless you turn it into a system. You don't scale talent — you scale the structure around it, as David did with his RAC (resolve, ace, close) system. Document what works, replicate it, and build something that runs without you.If you're a door-to-door salesperson, slammed doors aren't failures — they're field notes. David walked into his sales job with no training, no instincts, and no clue, and walked out as top rookie out of hundreds. The difference wasn't charisma. It was treating every "not interested" as a tiny experiment in what humans actually want.Top performers can be a company's biggest liability. The best closer in the room isn't always an asset — especially if they're toxic. David fired one of his top salespeople because the culture damage outweighed the commission. Worse, rookies were already emulating the bad behavior.Scaling too fast can kill a thriving business. David nearly bankrupted his company in year one — not from failure, but from success. Adding 7,500 customers instead of 5,000 drained cash faster than revenue could keep up. Growth without financial visibility is just a slow-motion crisis.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: YAP Media Network: Launch highly effective 360° podcast campaigns: yapmedia.comLufthansa Allegris: Go to Lufthansa.com and search for "Allegris" to learn moreDripDrop: 20% off: DripDrop.com, code JORDANHomeServe: Find the plan that's right for you: homeserve.comMarathon Rewards: Sign up today: marathonrewards.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.