Help, We Keep Fighting About Money

About this episode

This episode explores the underlying issues behind money arguments in relationships and offers insights on how to improve financial conversations.

Most couples have had the same money argument dozens of times without ever having the real conversation underneath it. Research shows that 58% of Australian couples report finances as a major source of conflict, and a study of over 5,500 couples found the pattern of the conversation predicted the outcome, not the financial situation. This episode covers: Why money fights are almost never about the money The money stories we carry from childhood and how they shape every conversation about finances How money becomes about power, identity and influence in a relationship The gendered lens we bring to money conversations and why it matters Questions to ask your partner to open the conversation rather than shut it down Why curiosity before problem solving is the thing that actually changes things ENROL NOW Relationship New Year RESET 2026 https://marievakakis.com.au/relationship-new-year-reset-2026/ Connect with Marie https://thetherapyhub.com.au/ https://marievakakis.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/ Submit a question to the Podcast https://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6

People in this episode

Host: Marie Vakakis

Topics covered

• money arguments
• relationship conflict
• financial conversations
• childhood money stories
• power dynamics
• gender and money

Keywords

• money fights
• relationship advice
• financial conflict
• communication
• curiosity
• power
• identity
• gender dynamics

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Therapy Hub, Marie Vakakis, Relationship New Year RESET 2026

Places: Australia

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