Episode 152: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves

Episode 152: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves

From To Help You Heal by Marie Monville

May 19, 2026 · 9 min · Episode 152

About this episode

Marie Monville discusses the impact of negative self-talk and the internal dialogue many people experience daily.

This week on the podcast, I want to talk about something I think so many of us experience without even realizing it: the internal dialogue we carry every single day. Sometimes the loudest voice in our lives is the one nobody else can hear. In this episode, I’m sharing some personal stories about feeling unseen, how experiences from childhood followed me into adulthood, and the ways negative self-talk can quietly become “background noise” in our lives. From replaying conversations and overthinking messages to apologizing unnecessarily or assuming rejection before we even put ourselves out there, I think many of us are carrying thoughts we stopped questioning a long time ago. I also talk about: why self-doubt often disguises itself as protection how rejection, comparison, and painful experiences shape the way we see ourselves the exhausting mental conflict many women quietly carry why familiar thoughts are not always true thoughts how compassion toward ourselves can begin to change the conversation internally One of the biggest takeaways from this episode is this:Just because a thought feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s telling the truth. Reflection Questions: What do I say to myself…

People in this episode

Host: Marie Monville

Topics covered

  • self-doubt
  • negative self-talk
  • internal dialogue
  • mental health
  • self-compassion

Keywords

  • self-talk
  • mental conflict
  • childhood experiences
  • rejection
  • comparison
  • compassion

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