Better Men Get Better Women - The Mountain Top

Co-Host Suzanne Noble (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/noble) My first-time guest Suzanne Noble is the host of Sex Advice For Seniors. Whatever you're thinking, forgettaboutit. She is candid, open and honest enough to make Dr. Ruth Westheimer blush. So what can a woman who's compiled over 10,000 hours of sexual activity (now Malcolm Gladwell's blushing as well) tell us about sex and relationships? Well, after bantering a bit about her being an American in London for over five decades, we jump right into how qualified she is to share with everyone what works, what doesn't, and what pisses her off. Adding up Suzanne's 10,000 hours, she was quick to mention that some of that was in five- or six-hour increments. How do you last six hours? Can you have snacks, or even take naps during sex? What is up with "performative sex", and how does maturity help us stop focusing on that? Sex is supposed to be fun, but is it also supposed to be silly? Are multiple orgasms really necessary...or even desired? Why do even younger men experience so much ED nowadays? How can we move from performance to connection during sexual experiences? Why do men resist talking about sex with women in detail, and especially talking during sex? What intricacies of good sex do we never see or understand by simply watching porn? Check out Suzanne's very cool Yes, No, Maybe Checklist when you visit her Substack. Also, get on my calendar for free to talk about what you have going on in your life with women nowadays. https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/coach) Emily joins me once again, this time for a fun-filled topic. Yes, we're talking about flirting...and flirting should indeed be fun. If it's work, drudgery, or even creepy and weird then we're not doing it right. Since women love fun, that means they also love to flirt. So what IS flirting really, anyway? And given the stereotype that sex slows down (or stops) after marriage, is it really flirting that stopped first? How is it that couples who actually like each other and are attracted to each other stop flirting? What killed it? The even better question is how do you get your flirt mojo back once you've lost it? Can we not lose it to begin with? What are the big differences between casual flirting with people we don't even know (yet), and flirting with someone we already know, or are in a relationship with? When Emily and I met, we flirted constantly from the first date. Have we slowed down or stopped flirting in our own relationship? And what in the world does parenthood do to flirtatious tendencies? Maybe an even better question is what does parental flirtation do to kids? Does flirting stop after marriage because it's not so easy to be naughty together anymore? After all, sex is perfectly okay in a marriage. What happens to flirting when we get in an argument with our significant other? Is there "aggression flirting" that happens right before the inevitable "make-up sex"? So the bottom line is this: If you're in a relationship and the flirting is MIA, what do you do to get back on track? And if you're hoping to be in a relationship someday, how do you make sure you never stop flirting with each other? Get in on the new audio program The "Big Four" Woman at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/bigfourwoman === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Rob Judge (https://mountaintoppodcat.com/robai) As much as I'd love to be, I can't be on call to every one of you guys I work with 24/7. I mean, I've been known to try...and I do get texts from guys right before 2am California time wondering how to get a woman's number at the bar before it closes. Well, my long-time friend and fellow men's coach Rob Judge has the same exact predicament. So as it turns out, both of us independently arrived at the same conclusion: We need AI versions of ourselves. After all, we can't clone ourselves like Michael Keaton in Multplicity, right? Nor would we want to, really, because if you've seen the flick each new clone gets stupider. What we needed was an even smarter version of ourselves here, if possible. Enter RobAI and VAMANOS. Curiously enough, both of us have pics on our respective websites of ourselves as sort of holographic "ghosts" helping a guy succeed with women. So I guess you could say it's more like we ghosted ourselves than cloning ourselves! But what's in it for YOU? I mean, you've probably noticed I have been pretty harsh on AI for the past few years. Well, the solid truth is like talking actors, TV and the Internet before it, AI is not a fad. Whether it originally brings about The Singularity and dooms humanity or not is a separate debate, but let's face it...if you aren't already taking full advantage of what AI can productively do for you, you're already WAY behind. So Rob and I talk about our AI systems and what they do for you, and what they honestly CAN'T do, too. For sure, we also talked at length about what real, live men stand to gain in our quest for self-betterment and success with women by using AI properly, both now and into the future. And while we're at it, we debated which AI draws hotter chicks. Rob won. Well, you've heard us talk about it, now use it: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/robai or https://mountaintopodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Kaamna Bhojwani (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/technosexual) My first-time guest Kaamna Bhojwani is a long-time sexologist, and more recently a technosexuality expert. With the rise of telephony, the Internet, social media and now AI we've all become more technosexual nowadays than we might even realize. But what IS "technosexuality"? Well, as unsettling as it sounds, it's at least not to be confused with replacing human sexuality with some sort of trans-human robot sex. This is a different conversation...about a phenomenon that's been going on for far longer, at least relatively speaking. But now, Kaamna is indeed speaking of a second wave of technosexuality with indeed involves direct interaction with electronic, non-human entities. Could technosexuality actually become a sexual orientation? Or has it even now, already become that there's sexual preference around some sort of technology for all of us, regardless of our sexual orientation? Kaamna believes the conversation about the technological tools available to us, and that will be available to us, is an important one for all of us to have. How can we use technology to connect sexually with each other more effectively, rather than using it to simply replace each other? Is someone profiting from these transformational shifts? How will challenges to traditional monogamy affect relationships, especially vis-a-vis jealousy? Meanwhile, Kaamna has an AI boyfriend. How's that going? Will AI and robots actually be able to enhance otherwise monogamous relationships? Social media and communicating behind the anonymity of the internet has become an integral part of this technosexual trend. Do men behave more badly online that women do? What does Bhojwani mean when she says, "we'll be able to have sex with anyone, anytime, anywhere?" VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men. Get yours at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Kenny Vaughan (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kenny) My first-time guest Kenny Vaughan is the author of The Right Fight and founder of Shield of Strength. He spends a lot of time thinking about what love is, and isn't. For years, Kenny thought love was only a feeling...but then realized there was something deeper there. He didn't buy that "love is a decision", either. What does, "I love you, I'm just not in love with you anymore" actually mean? And what does Kenny mean when he says, "I feel love her because she loves me?" And how did we get to the point where so-called "love" is actually defined by transactions in our culture? According to Kenny, love is both your offense and your defense. What does that mean? How much is love about being "nice" to each other? Why can that attitude of being "nice" actually show you don't love someone rather than truly loving them? Okay, so then what does "tough love" really mean? And what does this all have to do with how women crave "emotional availability"? Why is it so important for us (and women) to know why someone is doing what they're doing when we're in a relationship with them? How the idea of protecting a woman integrally tied to love? (Hint: Just because you'd die for her doesn't necessarily mean you love her.) So what comes first, the feeling of love or the decision to love? And does it stay that way forever? When one partner blames the other for a relationship going badly, what might actually be going on there? So is the phrase "deserve what you want" in line with actual love, or is it too self-serving? And most importantly, is Kenny related to Stevie Ray? The everyday carry for "Big Four" men is VAMANOS. What is it? Find out here: https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Sanya Bari (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sanya) My first time guest Sanya Bari is a relationship therapist and emotional clarity expert...which given she's from New Jersey means she's in high demand. She asked a dangerous question: What keeps men from thriving? To get the show rolling, Sanya riffs away on what her findings were. So what is the difference between merely surviving and thriving? What is the real "drug" that keeps us from being our best selves? (Hint: It's not booze or ganja.) What about being "locked in" to a project or goal? Is that a good or a bad thing? If you "survive" effectively enough, others may actually give you accolades for it. But what's the danger behind that mindset? Why does Sanya believe that most guys really don't even realize when they're slipping into "survival mode"? And how to we recover from that and get ourselves back? How do we handle seeing everyone else's "highlight reels" on Facebook knowing that we're NOT okay? How do the mixed messages we as men get about emotions and logic affect us...especially in our relationships with women? What is the habit nearly everyone in Western culture has gotten into nowadays that represents the exact opposite of thriving...yet people seem to like it that way? Next, the surprising truth about how failure to thrive may indeed be passed on generationally. How do you break that cycle? When it comes to relationships with women, how do we keep entering into relationships with women that exhaust us and hold us back rather than helping us thrive? Be a "Big Four" man who gets women: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Since our last episode together, Emily and I celebrated 20 years since we met. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now obviously, most couples would hope for an endless springtime rather than the winter of their discontent, but what we're talking about here isn't quite so literal. It's not just that things change both in the marriage and around you. That's inevitable in this life. It's not even about the evolution of the marriage, or the both of you over time, really. Rather, it's a definite smooth and perhaps even rhythmic flow from one major theme of your life together into another. Now, Emily and I met when we were in our mid- and late-thirties, respectively. For the benefit of those of you listening who might be younger, what seasons can younger couples expect? Is it all about being DINKS (or even DINKWADS)? What about the "Honeymoon Phase"? And the dreaded "Seven Year Itch"? Does Parenthood count as a season? As for us, we went through "travel season" and "youth sports season". What's next? We were still having kids at 40 and 45 years old, so we aren't "empty nesters" yet. What might that season look like? What about growing old together? What are some surprises that season might bring? There are now 67 retired episodes, featuring some of the OGs in the men's dating space. Get them all for a donation at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/retired === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.