On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Jay explores how draining relationships can quietly take a toll on our bodies, minds, and emotional well-being, leaving us depleted before a conversation even begins and carrying its weight long after it ends. He breaks down five signs of chronic relational stress, from managing other people’s emotions and falling into the fixer role to shrinking yourself and replaying interactions in your head. Jay also shares practical tools for setting healthier boundaries, letting go of emotional responsibility that isn’t yours, and protecting your energy without cutting people off or losing compassion. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 Physical Signs Of A Draining Relationship 01:45 How Difficult Relationships May Affect Biological Aging 03:35 Energy Vampires Vs. Normal Relationships 05:20 The Mental Burden Of Walking On Eggshells 07:40 Understanding Ambivalent Relationships 09:42 The Burden of Managing Others’ Emotions 09:33 Feeling Valued Vs. Feeling Responsible For Others 13:09 When Every Interaction Drains You 14:10 The Trap Of Always Being The Fixer 17:07 Making Yourself Smaller Around Others 18:50 Adjusting Your Expectations In Relationships 20:38 Turning Envy Into Curiosity And Generosity 21:49 Replaying Conversations In Your Head 24:08 How to Reset After A Difficult Interaction 28:52 Navigating Imbalance In Relationships 29:26 What Healthy Boundaries Actually Look Like Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay sits down with beauty creator Mikayla Nogueira to go beyond the online persona and share the real story behind her rise. Mikayla opens up about the struggles that shaped her before finding success, the viral moment that changed her life overnight, and the painful reality of a marriage impacted by addiction and divorce. She also shares how she found her way forward, reconnected with her high school first love, and launched her own beauty brand with Sephora. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Built-in protections for teens. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:45 Why Share Your Story Now? 01:31 Beyond The Influencer Persona 02:46 Childhood Memories That Shaped Her 03:45 Bullying & Discovering Makeup At Age 10 05:24 The Insecurities Behind the Confidence 06:48 Expressing Her True Self Online 08:55 The Origin Of Her Passion For Makeup 11:18 Work Ethic And Thinking Big 12:37 Creating Her Very First YouTube Video 13:58 Presenting A 50-Page Business Plan 16:30 Returning To Her Hometown & Donating Makeup 18:00 Getting Hired At Ulta Beauty 23:52 Letting Go of the Future She Planned 28:10 Losing Her Job and Finding a New Path 31:34 The First Viral Video 37:08 Manifesting Success & Building A Content Engine 41:53 Experiencing Her First Cancellation 45:25 Reflecting on Past Controversies 48:56 The Mental Health Toll of Rapid Growth 52:54 The Boston Accent 56:48 Meeting Her Ex-Husband Cody 59:41 Navigating Addiction In A Relationship 01:04:08 Dating An Influencer & Dating An Addict 01:05:56 Marriage Through Addiction and Relapse 01:13:00 A Harrowing Late-Night Emergency 01:18:11 Making the Decision to Divorce 01:33:53 The Path To Divorce 01:40:46 Finally A Fresh Start 01:46:45 Reconnecting With High School First Love, Zach 01:52:21 Building Her Beauty Brand (POV) 01:57:30 Looking Back 01:59:34 Mikayla On Final Five Episode Resources: Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/share/1C43BCLCFi/?mibextid=wwXIfr TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@mikaylanogueira Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/mikaylajmakeup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay answers listeners' stories about what happens when health struggles make life feel completely out of your control. Through conversations about postpartum trauma, an unexpected brain tumor diagnosis, the emotional toll of caring for a parent with dementia, and the desire to help others while still healing yourself, Jay explores how to live with uncertainty when you can’t simply fix what you’re going through. He shares grounded, research-backed ways to find moments of relief, redefine what’s enough, and keep moving forward without waiting for everything to be resolved. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 When Your Health Is Out of Your Control 00:47 Navigating Ongoing Postpartum Trauma 01:29 The Insider's Burden 03:24 The Importance of Leaning on Your Support Systems 05:43 Finding Connection Through Shared Experience 07:40 Stepping Away From the Grind 08:49 Facing Mortality & Steve Jobs' Speech 10:05 Practical Strategies For Taking a Break 11:50 Alignment And Presence Over "Balance" 14:45 Living In Seasons Of Life 15:42 The Emotional Toll Of Caregiving 16:49 When Caregiving Forces Impossible Choices 18:53 Caregivers As "The Invisible Second Patients" 21:50 Transforming Active Grief Into Healing 22:56 Finding Strength When You Can’t Fix the Situation 24:48 Helping Others While Still In The Healing Journey 25:54 Three Steps Ahead Vs. Three Decades Ahead Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Drawing on seven years of conversations with leading health experts, Jay explores “complexity bias,” our tendency to believe complicated solutions must be more effective than simple ones. He breaks better health down to three fundamentals: moving your body, protecting your attention, and investing in your relationships. Backed by decades of research, Jay shows why getting the basics right can have a bigger impact than any elaborate routine, and shares a simple 7-day movement challenge to help you put it into practice. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. Your future is waiting, and Walden is here to help you achieve it. https://WaldenU.edu JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 The Health and Wellness Trap 01:39 Complexity Bias 02:51 3 Fundamental Habits To Achieve Wellness 04:17 Habit 1: Moving Your Body 09:36 The Psychology Of Action & Effort 13:26 Habit 2: Protecting Your Attention 14:52 The Attention Crisis 21:55 Habit 3: Investing in Relationships 28:39 Returning To Timeless Fundamentals Episode Resources: This episode is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not medical or mental-health advice or a substitute for professional care. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay sits down with actress Lucy Hale, who at 37 says she feels more comfortable with herself than ever before. Lucy opens up about letting go of society’s timelines, navigating media scrutiny and body insecurity while growing up in the early days of social media, and her relationship with alcohol and path to sobriety. Lucy also shares her decision to freeze her eggs on her own terms, and how solitude, self-forgiveness, and personal growth have changed the way she approaches love, relationships, and herself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. Your future is waiting, and Walden is here to help you achieve it. https://WaldenU.edu JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:00 Reaching Her Grounded Era at 37 04:00 Releasing Societal Timelines & Comparison 06:40 Letting Go of The Pressure to Be Who Others Expected 13:56 Facing Oneself & Reframing Envy 16:28 The Need for Solitude From a Young Age 17:50 Reconnecting With Feminine Energy 20:40 Early Fame, Media Scrutiny & Perfectionism 24:20 Insecurities On Pretty Little Liars 27:35 Unpacking Past Coping Mechanisms & Learning to Forgive Yourself 32:14 The Ongoing Journey Of Sobriety 35:00 The Moment She Decided to go to Rehab 43:48 Advice For Anyone Seeking Sobriety 45:45 Dating Differently After Doing the Work 53:00 Waymo Cars & Delivery Robots 54:12 Rapid-Fire Game 56:44 Will There be a Pretty Little Liars Reunion? 58:46 Perspectives On Motherhood & Freezing Her Eggs 01:05:40 A Blind Date and The First Healthy Relationship 01:11:32 Looking for Signs in Everyday Life 01:16:58 Lucy On Final Five Episode Resources: Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lucyhale YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTMIfFn9BoAHSCaKkcZm-VA Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/LucyHale X | https://x.com/lucyhale Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In a rare and deeply personal conversation, Jay sits down with Oprah Winfrey to reflect on the defining moments, hard-earned lessons, and extraordinary journey that shaped her life. Oprah opens up about her earliest memories in Mississippi, surviving childhood abuse, and how those experiences shaped the woman she would become. She traces her remarkable rise from a small radio job to one of the most influential voices in the world, sharing the spiritual practices that have grounded her along the way and the Maya Angelou wisdom that transformed how she thinks about legacy. Oprah also reflects on what it means to live in true alignment with your soul and gives a glimpse inside her upcoming immersive experience at The Sphere and the next chapter she’s creating. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. PURPOSE10 for 10% ataltrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose . Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:53 Oprah Welcome To On Purpose 02:08 Early Childhood Memories In Mississippi 05:38 Early Experiences Of Self-Agency 10:34 Leaning Into God's Dream & Introducing "Spirit" To TV 13:57 Spiritual Evolution & The Prayer: "How Can You Use Me?" 15:36 Early Public Speaking & Church Roots 16:57 Listening To The "Still, Small Voice" 19:41 How to Trust Your Own Inner Knowing 21:23 Humble Beginnings & Dirt Roads 22:34 Unpacking Her Childhood Trauma 28:03 Teenage Pregnancy, Family Shame & Tabloid Betrayal 33:45 The Truth That Finally Set Her Free 37:23 Turning A Breakdown Into A Breakthrough 41:16 Oprah’s First Radio Job 44:40 The Career Move That Changed Everything 47:38 Announcing "Aha!": The Sphere Immersive Experience 56:10 Protecting Stillness & Operating With Intention 01:00:32 The Joy of Sharing & Launching The Book Club 01:06:09 Interviewer On Interviewer: Diana Ross & Her Most Impactful Guests 01:11:40 Living in Alignment With Your True Self 01:13:50 The Rarity And Miracle Of Human Life 01:15:50 Redefining What Legacy Means 01:18:09 Living In Dedicated Service 01:20:32 Moral Beauty & Planting Trees For The Future 01:21:40 Oprah On Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://ahalive.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/oprah LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/owinfrey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay explores how living in a world of likes, ratings, and constant feedback can make us lose touch with our own judgment. He shares five shifts for relying less on outside approval and building more trust in yourself: from learning to read yourself instead of the room and separating belonging from approval, to questioning what you really want and building self-trust through the small promises you keep to yourself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan⁠. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 0:00 Introduction 00:24 What’s Really Behind the Need for Validation 03:20 Five Shifts From External to Internal Validation 03:38 Reading The Room Vs. Reading Yourself 06:09 Evolution, Tribe Instincts, And Borrowed Opinions 08:18 Why is Rejection So Painful? 12:16 Escaping The Box 15:32 Auditing Your Desires And Expectations 18:06 Building Self-Trust Vs. Chasing Confidence 25:15 Stop Watching Your Life From the Outside Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay welcomes neuroscientist Andrew Huberman back for his third appearance to dive into his new book, Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body. Andrew breaks down what’s really happening in your body from the moment you wake up, from morning cortisol and better sleep to the science behind that afternoon energy crash. Then the conversation goes beyond physical health, exploring prayer, surrender, and how to better manage your energy. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:07 The Core Philosophy: Finding Ease, Peace, and Alignment 05:21 Optimal Morning Habits: The First Hour Of The Day 08:13 The Biology Of The Cortisol Awakening Response 13:31 Restoring Circadian Balance 15:19 Navigating The “Afternoon Crash” 21:15 Simplifying Fitness: Accessible Movement 24:13 The Science of Sleep and the Power of Prayer 26:35 Leaning Into Faith: Turning Willpower Over To God 28:30 The Scientific Mystery Of Surrender 32:54 Moving Beyond Binaries: Science And Faith 40:11 Jay’s Reflections On Grace And Compassion 44:46 James Hollis’s Four Rules For A Good Life 50:28 The Science Behind Recurring Thought Patterns 55:05 The Eastern Metaphor Of The Chariot 01:01:00 Breaking Out of Your Default Morning Mindset 01:03:30 The Pillars of Wellness And Impulse Control 01:06:00 The Ethical Burden of Animal Research 01:09:37 Prefrontal Strategy: Humans vs. Dogs and Cats 01:10:47 Brain-Machine Interfaces for Paralyzed Patients 01:11:54 The Future of Non-Invasive Brain Stimulation 01:15:00 Willpower, Stress, And Directing Energy 01:16:37 The 27 Club Vs. Blue Zone Longevity 01:17:25 The Drive to Stand Out and Succeed 01:19:18 Nolan Williams And High-Output Healers 01:20:44 Rick Rubin’s Riddles On Balancing Energy 01:24:34 The Flow Of Energy Exchange 01:27:24 Hard-Earned Positivity 01:29:27 The Injured Bird 01:31:38 Achieving Scientific Consensus Over Time 01:34:09 Andrew Huberman On Final Five Episode Resources: Pre-order Andrew's new book Protocols: https://www.hubermanlab.com/protocols-book Website | https://www.hubermanlab.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@hubermanlab TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@hubermanlab Threads | https://www.threads.com/@hubermanlab Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/hubermanlab LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-huberman X | https://x.com/hubermanlab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay answers four listener calls about what to do when the path forward feels uncertain. From career rejection and financial risks to knowing when openness becomes self-abandonment and how to keep going after repeated disappointment, Jay explores how to navigate the moments when what you want isn’t working out the way you hoped. Drawing on Seneca, Pema Chödrön, and Taoist philosophy, he shares how shifting from an outcome mindset to a growth mindset can help you see rejection differently, keep your momentum, and stay open to the right opportunity. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Navigating Career Rejections 01:31 The Smarter Way To Get Your Foot In The Door 06:32 Jay’s Personal Story With Rejection 08:56 Is The Dream Worth The Financial Risk? 10:24 Before You Take The Leap, Ask Yourself This 14:22 When Does Empathy Become Self-Abandonment? 15:40 Setting Boundaries Without Closing Your Heart 20:44 How To Stop Letting Rejection Kill Your Excitement 21:26 Shift From An Outcome Mindset To A Growth Mindset Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay explores why our relationship with money is about so much more than what’s in our bank account. He breaks down five lessons, from how childhood shapes the way we spend and save, to what we’re really buying when we make a purchase, what money can and can’t solve, why simple systems work better than willpower, and how to make money work for you instead of letting it run your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. This episode is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not financial, investment, tax, or legal advice. Consider your individual circumstances and consult an appropriate professional before making financial decisions. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Are You Financially Literate? 04:51 Your First Money Lessons Start in Childhood 10:08 What You’re Actually Buying When You Make a Purchase 15:26 Money Can’t Buy Happiness, But It Can Buy Options 17:17 How Much Is Actually Enough? 21:21 Systems Over Willpower 26:50 Money Is Not The Goal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay sits down with Harvard Business School professor Alison Wood Brooks, author of Talk: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves, to explore what makes great conversations actually work and where most of us get it wrong. Together, they unpack how to choose better topics, embrace the messiness of real dialogue, master the three stages of listening, and give compliments that genuinely connect. Alison also reveals why admitting uncertainty builds more trust than having all the answers, and shares practical conversation games you can start using right away. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Learn to own the conversations that matter most in Alison Wood Brooks' new class on MasterClass: The Conversation Advantage With Alison Wood Brooks | MasterClass PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:51 Shifting Focus from Yourself In Conversation 05:31 Lowering Your Anxiety with Topic Prep 08:30 Is It Better to Be Interesting or Interested? 09:45 The Butterfly Net Metaphor 13:00 Low-Stakes Practice To Build High-Stakes Confidence 14:00 Debunking Traditional Rules of Persuasion 15:55 Building Conversational Safety Through Validation 17:06 Agenda-Free Relationships vs. Manipulative Networking 20:36 The Power of Follow-Up Questions 24:00 Embracing the Natural Messiness of Dialogue 26:11 Unrealistic Standards Set by Media and Podcasts 27:06 Alison's Top Three Small Talk Techniques 29:22 Balancing Leading vs. Following in Conversation 32:40 Does Your Mind Wander During Conversation? 33:40 The Power of Callbacks 34:00 The Attention Crisis and Screen Disruption 37:09 Strategies for Staying Present 39:00 Reciprocity and the Good-to-Great Question Shift 41:14 Intimate Openers and Stealth Topic-Switching 46:12 How to Respond to One Word Answers 47:35 Game 1: Spontaneous Depth and Sincerity 51:57 Game 2: Breaking Through Reserve 55:56 Talk Time Game: Battle of the Nice Guys 01:01:03 The Compliment Landmines to Avoid 01:04:00 This Is Damaging Your Potential Connections 01:09:48 The Best Way to Receive a Compliment 01:12:30 Talk Time Game: Admitting Uncertainty 01:21:30 Feel More Confident During Conversations 01:22:05 Dating Conversations and the First-Date Pause 01:26:20 Reviving a Dying Date Conversation 01:29:54 Deconstructing the "36 Questions to Fall in Love" 01:31:40 Defusing Heated Disagreements 01:32:22 Preparing for Difficult Conversations 01:34:00 When Distance Is Better Than Talking 01:37:45 Alison Wood Brooks on Final Five Episode Resources:  Website | https://www.talkstudios.com/  LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/alison-wood-brooks-7b98b826  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/profalisonbrooks/?hl=en  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the very first episode of Ask Jay, a new series where listeners send in voice notes with their biggest questions, Jay explores what it really means to let go when your heart is still holding on. Through four deeply personal stories, he unpacks the difference between love and trauma bonds, the pull of breadcrumbing and relationship amnesia, the anxious-avoidant cycle, and what it takes to rebuild trust after betrayal. Along the way, Jay shares practical tools to help you choose yourself, rebuild self-trust, accept silence as an answer, and recognize when healing needs to come before making a decision about a relationship. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Your future is waiting, and Walden is here to help you achieve it. https://WaldenU.edu Access resources from the Domestic Violence support hotline here: https://www.thehotline.org/ JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:23 Are You Holding On To A One-Sided Relationship? 03:40 The Law of Reciprocation 06:23 Breadcrumbing And Listening to Your Body 07:34 Trauma Bonds And Relationship Amnesia 09:16 Letting Go Of The “Good Girl” Persona 11:04 Is It Love or A Trauma Bond? 16:07 Why Toxic Relationships Feel So Hard to Leave 16:41 Rebuilding Self-Trust After Abuse 19:11 The Love As Action Test 20:12 Why Avoidant Partners Leave 21:52 What An Avoidant Partner May Be Thinking 23:32 Stop Trying To Read Their Mind 25:38 Redirecting Hope Back Toward Yourself 29:21 Can Trust Be Rebuilt After Betrayal? 31:00 What Was the Purpose Of The Break? 32:58 Should You Give Second Chances? 33:39 Healing Before Making A Relationship Decision 34:36 Building A “Second Marriage” With The Same Person Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Loneliness doesn’t come from being surrounded by too few people, it comes from believing you have to wait for connection to find you. In this episode, Jay shares five powerful mindset shifts to help you build meaningful friendships as an adult by overcoming the fear of rejection, letting go of imagined judgment, and embracing the courage to make the first move. Through practical insights and research-backed wisdom, you'll discover that lasting friendships aren't built through perfect chemistry, but through consistent presence, intentional effort, and the willingness to create the community you've been searching for. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Introduction 00:02:33 5 Mindset Shifts to Make Friends 00:03:51 Why Making Friends Feels Harder Now 00:06:25 The Fear Keeping You Lonely 00:09:55 People Like You More Than You Think 00:14:35 Why Repetition Builds Real Friendships 00:21:01 Stop Waiting, Start Building Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices