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Women learn early which parts of themselves make other people comfortable. After enough years, that performance can begin to feel like our identity, and the intuition underneath it goes quiet. Dr. Ellen Vora spent much of her life inside that worldview. A Yale- and Columbia-trained psychiatrist, she built her life around science and skepticism. Then, during an acupuncture treatment, Ellen received a message she couldn’t explain away, and it opened a question her training couldn’t answer: When someone dies, does the relationship actually end? That experience forced her to reconsider what she believed about grief, intuition, and the limits of what we can prove. Today, Ellen shares the full story behind her new book, Season of the Witch: A Psychiatrist’s Case for Magic, and why women are taught to give up essential parts of themselves in order to be taken seriously. She argues that we’ve been missing something, and the way back starts in the body. In this episode, you’ll learn: - How being agreeable and low-maintenance can become a form of self-abandonment - Why women have been taught to distrust their intuition - How to distinguish intuition from anxiety, and the ways the body signals yes and no - Why menopause can represent a rebirth rather than a disappearance - What grief can teach us about continuing relationships with the people we have lost - Why the “witch” archetype has always been connected to women who are no longer easily controlled - Simple ways to become more receptive to meaning, guidance, and magic in everyday life This is a conversation about returning to the parts of ourselves we learned to suppress, and letting life become a little more mysterious and alive. If you liked this episode, then you’ll like: Why You Feel So Lost Right Now (And How to Finally Heal) If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow Dr. Vora on Instagram Get Dr. Vora's book, Season of the Witch Sponsors: Learn more about your ad choices, click here Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’ve been searching for how to strengthen your feet, improve your balance, walk better, help bunions, choose the right shoes, or stay mobile as you age, this episode is for you. Your feet could be telling you more about your health than you realize. Today, Tamsen sits down with foot and gait specialist Dr. Courtney Conley to break down the simple things you can start doing now to build stronger feet, improve the way you walk, and protect your mobility as you age. You’ll learn: - Why your walking speed can reveal important information about your health - The simple test that can show you how strong your toes actually are - What to do about bunions before considering surgery - Why balance and foot strength become so important as you age - Whether you actually need arch support or orthotics - The truth about max-cushion sneakers, barefoot shoes and walking barefoot - How to tell if your shoes are changing the shape of your feet - The simple foot exercises Dr. Conley recommends for strength and mobility - Why toe spacers can help and how to use them correctly - What Dr. Conley rates orthotics, insoles, compression socks, bunion correctors, massage balls, slant boards and toe spacers Your feet are carrying you through your entire life. This episode will show you how to start taking care of them now so they can keep carrying you for decades to come. Get your pink toe spacers HERE If you liked this episode, then you’ll like: The Foot Expert: The 6 Shoe Mistakes That Are Hurting Your Body For everything mentioned in this episode, click this link If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow Dr. Conley on Instagram Get Dr. Conley's book, Walk: Rediscover the Most Natural Way to Boost Your Health and Longevity―One Step at a Time Sponsors: Learn more about your ad choices, click here Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you lose a word, forget why you walked into a room, or struggle to retain what you just read, it can be unsettling. It can also make you wonder whether your brain is beginning to change. In this episode, Tamsen sits down with memory and learning expert Jim Kwik to explore what affects our ability to remember and why attention may be one of the most important parts of the equation. Jim, author of Limitless and the new book Limitless Daily: 366 Keys to Train Your Brain, Master Your Mind & Win Every Day, shares his journey from being labeled “the boy with the broken brain” to becoming one of the world’s best-known memory coaches—and offers practical ways to strengthen your focus, keep learning, and begin trusting your mind again. They discuss: - How attention determines what becomes a memory - Why mental overload can make us feel more forgetful - A 60-second grounding exercise to use when you feel scattered or anxious - Simple techniques for remembering what you read - How to keep challenging and training your brain as you age - The small daily practices that build focus, memory, and self-trust If you liked this episode, then you’ll like: The ADHD Psychiatrist: How to Get Your Focus Back After 40 If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow Jim on Instagram Get Jim's book, Limitless Daily: 366 Keys to Train Your Brain, Master Your Mind & Win Every Day Sponsors:Head over to Bombas.com/TAMSEN and use code TAMSEN for 20% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices, click here Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever looked at your age, your responsibilities, or how long you’ve been putting something off and wondered if you missed your chance? Captain Carole Hopson dreamed of becoming a pilot from the time she was four years old. Then life got full. She built a successful corporate career, became an executive at Foot Locker, and raised two sons. The dream never left her. At 50, Carole began flying for the airlines. Today, she is a Boeing 737 captain for United Airlines. In this conversation, Carole breaks down what starting over actually required and shares how she turned “someday” into a plan she could follow. In this episode. they get into: - The deadline that turned Carole’s childhood dream into a real goal - How she prepared financially for a major career change - Why she waited until her children were older to fly professionally - What it felt like to be the oldest person in the classroom - How to build a personal “board of directors” for your next chapter - What pioneering aviator Bessie Coleman taught her about possibility - Her mission to help 100 Black women attend flight school through the Jet Black Foundation If there is something you keep telling yourself you’ll do one day, Carole’s story will push you to get honest about what you’re waiting for and finally give that dream a date. If you liked this episode, then you’ll like: Thinking About a Career Change? Start Here If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow Carole on Instagram Get Carole's book, A Pair of Wings Sponsors:It’s time to get back to feeling like you again. Visit joinmidi.com right now to book your first visit today. Learn more about your ad choices, click here Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why does women's sexual health still get treated as an afterthought, and what would it take to finally change that? Cindy Eckert is the founder and CEO of Sprout Pharmaceuticals and the woman behind Addyi, the first and only FDA-approved treatment for low sexual desire in women. In this episode, she explains hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), the biological condition behind low libido that affects millions of women and is still routinely dismissed as stress, aging, or a relationship problem. Cindy breaks down why women are told their low libido is emotional while men's sexual health issues are treated as biological, what actually happens in the brain when desire disappears, and the three question checklist she wants every woman to bring to her next doctor's appointment. She also explains why 80% of women who brought up low libido with their doctor were simply told it was normal, and what women's sexual health should actually look like when it's taken seriously. In this episode, you'll learn: - What HSDD is and why it's rooted in biology, not emotion - Why women's sexual health has been dismissed as psychological instead of medical - How the double standard in FDA drug review affects treatments for women - Why 80% of women raising low libido with their doctor are told it's normal - The three questions to ask before accepting "that's just aging" - How Addyi works and who it's for - What changed with Addyi's newest approval for postmenopausal women If you've ever felt like your desire just switched off and been told that's normal, been handed a vague explanation instead of a real answer, or wondered if something is wrong with you instead of your body, this episode will help you understand the biology behind it, so you stop blaming yourself for something that was never your fault. Addyi (flibanserin) is for women under 65 with acquired, generalized HSDD who have not had problems with low sexual desire in the past. It is not for men. Full safety information, including boxed warning on alcohol interaction, is available at addyi.com/pi. If you liked this episode, then you’ll like: The Testosterone Doctor: The Truth About Women’s Libido If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow Cindy on Instagram Sponsors: Get 15% off your first order at Blueland.com/TAMSEN Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices, click here Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You may have never heard the term mother hunger, but you may know what it feels like. It can show up as apologizing when you did nothing wrong, saying sorry to keep the peace, taking care of everyone else, choosing people who cannot fully show up, or feeling guilty for having needs. In this episode, Tamsen sits down with therapist and bestselling author Kelly McDaniel to explore how the mother-daughter bond can shape the way we love, eat, grieve, and move through relationships. Tamsen also shares her own experience of losing her mother at 20, becoming a caregiver while she was still a teenager, and realizing years later how that loss continued to shape her life. In this episode, you’ll learn: - What mother hunger is and how it can exist even when your mother was physically present. - Why you may keep apologizing, overgiving, or choosing emotionally unavailable people. - How grief, food, attachment, and relationship patterns can be connected. - Why caring for an aging mother can bring up guilt, anger, and resentment. - How to begin giving yourself the care, safety, and guidance you may have missed. If you have ever wondered why you keep saying sorry, why you feel responsible for everyone, or why the same relationship patterns keep repeating, this conversation may help you understand what is underneath. If you liked this conversation, check this out: What No One Tells You About Grief After Losing Your Mother If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Check out Kelly's website Get Kelly's book, Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance Sponsors: Learn more about your ad choices, click here Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've been wondering why perimenopause and menopause suddenly leave you feeling bloated, struggling with belly fat, or questioning everything you thought you knew about gut health and protein, this episode is for you. Tamsen sits down with nutrition expert and bestselling author Cynthia Thurlow to break down what's really happening in your body and the simple changes that can make a big difference. In this episode, you'll learn: - Why gut health becomes so important during perimenopause and menopause - What's really behind bloating, belly fat, and food sensitivities in midlife - How much protein and fiber you actually need - Whether GLP-1s, supplements, and gut testing are worth it - The simple daily habits that can improve digestion, energy, and overall health Whether you're just starting perimenopause or you've been in menopause for years, this conversation will help you better understand your body and feel more confident about what to do next. If you liked this conversation, check this out: 5 Tools To FINALLY Lose The Belly Fat in Perimenopause For everything mentioned in this episode, click this link If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow Cynthia on Instagram Visit Cynthia's website Get Cynthia's book, The Menopause Gut: Balance Your Microbiome to Reclaim Your Health in Midlife and Beyond Sponsors: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Book your first virtual visit today at https://joinmidi.com/tamsen! Head over to https://Bombas.com/TAMSEN and use code TAMSEN for 20% off your first purchase! Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices