Embracing Intensity

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After a bit of a break from long-form content, I'm so excited to be back with a solo episode that's deeply personal and incredibly timely. I've missed connecting with you more intimately through the podcast and am looking forward to bringing you more episodes like this in the coming months. Lately, I've been diving into the topic of neurodivergent burnout, something I've experienced firsthand and that I know many of you can relate to. I've written two blog posts on the topic and shared a companion video on YouTube—and even tested out long-form content on TikTok for the first time! This episode is a heartfelt exploration of what burnout can look like for those of us who are gifted, ADHD, autistic, or otherwise neurodivergent, and how we can begin to recover and reconnect with our energy and purpose. About My Experience of Burnout: Over the last three years, I've been working through the most intense burnout of my life. It started during the pandemic and lingered far beyond, as I struggled to return to the rhythms of daily life in a world that never truly went "back to normal." Like many neurodivergent individuals, I found myself caught in a cycle of urgency, executive dysfunction, emotional exhaustion, and identity loss—especially as a twice-exceptional adult who spent years masking and pushing through. Throughout this episode, I share how I began healing by shifting my energy focus, consuming more uplifting media, and building out my self-regulation toolkit. These small but impactful steps helped me start to climb out of burnout and reconnect with my values and purpose. In This Episode: What neurodivergent burnout really is and how it differs from general burnout The impact of executive dysfunction, sensory overload, and masking The "gifted kid burnout" problem and how identity gets tangled in achievement How urgency culture creates cycles of burnout and crash Using the "circle of influence" vs. "circle of concern" to refocus energy Shifting media consumption and moving from doomscrolling to hope scrolling The importance of community care and authentic connection Building a personalized self-regulation toolkit for long-term energy balance Learning to ask for help and receive support without guilt A reminder: burnout is not a personal failure—it's a survival response Burnout is an all-too-common challenge for neurodivergent people, and it often looks very different from what the general population might expect. For autistic people, ADHD burnout, and other forms of neurodivergent burnout, it's not just about long hours or hard work—it's about the constant effort of navigating a neurotypical world without adequate support. The neurodivergent mind processes sensory input, social interaction, and executive function tasks in different ways, often leading to sensory processing issues and emotional exhaustion. Many autistic adults and neurodivergent individuals experience a greater risk of burnout due to the compounding effects of chronic stress, loss of skills, and a deep lack of motivation when support systems are not in place. While neurotypical people may recover from burnout with rest alone, a neurodivergent adult often needs more nuanced strategies to heal—ones that take into account their unique neurodivergent traits, sensory experiences, and cognitive abilities. Burnout can also exacerbate mood disorders like anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Unfortunately, many family members, employers, and even mental health professionals may overlook these common causes, failing to provide the school accommodations, social support, or safe place needed for recovery. Whether it's through personal experience, insights from advocates or participation in online communities, it's clear that understanding the term neurodivergent and how it manifests is crucial. Supporting autistic children, ADHD individuals, and all neurodivergent people in reaching their full potential means meeting human needs, addressing sensory processing issues, and creating an ideal world where burnout is not the norm—but a sign that something deeper must be healed. If you've been feeling like you're constantly pushing through exhaustion, struggling to find balance, or wondering why everything feels so hard—you are not alone. Neurodivergent burnout is real, and it's not a reflection of your worth or capability. It's a signal that your needs deserve more care, compassion, and community support. Let this episode be a gentle reminder that your intensity is not too much, your rest is valid, and your healing matters. I'd love to hear from you—what topics would you like me to explore further on the podcast? And if you're ready to start building your own toolkit for energy balance and self-regulation, check out the PowerZone Toolkit Challenge, now available anytime you need it. 🎧 Listen now and take your next step toward recovery and reclaiming your energy. Resources & Links: PowerZone Toolkit Challenge (now evergreen & free!) Join the Embracing Intensity Community Watch the video on YouTube Follow on TikTok & Instagram: @embracingintensity

In this episode of Embracing Intensity, I'm thrilled to welcome Sheldon Gay, host of the I Must Be Buggin' podcast. Sheldon brings his insightful perspective on navigating life as a late-identified gifted and neurodivergent individual. His podcast and work are dedicated to amplifying underrepresented voices and empowering others to embrace their unique identities. We explore the challenges and beauty of being true to oneself in a world that often misunderstands intensity, neurodivergence, and giftedness. Sheldon's passion for self-discovery, emotional depth, and compassionate communication shines through in this powerful conversation. About Sheldon: Sheldon Gay is the host of the I Must Be Buggin' podcast, where he delves into topics of identity, giftedness, and neurodivergence through the lens of being Black, underrepresented, and gifted. His mission is to create a space for self-awareness, acceptance, and growth, while helping others see and embrace their unique strengths. Sheldon's background as a late-identified gifted and neurodivergent individual has fueled his passion for helping others on their journey of self-discovery. He brings a thoughtful, empathetic approach to conversations on identity, culture, and the power of authenticity. In This Episode: Navigating Identity as a Late-Identified Neurodivergent Individual – Sheldon shares his journey of discovering his giftedness and neurodivergence later in life. Ask vs. Guess Culture – A deep dive into communication styles, cultural nuances, and how self-awareness can help bridge differences. The Power of Self-Discovery – Reflections on how shadow work and embracing authenticity can lead to freedom from shame and guilt. Intensity and Emotional Depth – Exploring how Sheldon's intellectual curiosity and emotional intensity shape his interactions and relationships. Cultural Expectations and Exceptionalism – Discussing the pressures faced by marginalized communities and how giftedness intersects with cultural identity. Truth with Compassion – The importance of sharing truth in ways that create connection and understanding rather than division. Resources & Links: Sheldon's Website: Sheldon Gay is Buggin Listen to the I Must Be Buggin' podcast Learn more about Sheldon's speaking engagements Explore his neuroaffirming and anti-racist merchandise Join the Embracing Intensity Community Connect with Aurora: Embracing Intensity Sheldon's thoughtful reflections and passion for empowering others provide invaluable insights for anyone navigating their own journey of self-discovery and authenticity. Tune in for an engaging and inspiring conversation! Listen now and share your thoughts with us! 🎧✨

In this highly engaging episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman dives deep into the world of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) with Bob Yamtich, a seasoned practitioner with over 20 years of experience. Bob shares how NVC has shaped his approach to relationships, parenting, and self-understanding, particularly as a neurodivergent individual. This conversation is packed with practical insights and tools for those seeking to enhance their self-connection and interpersonal communication. About Bob Yamtich: Bob Yamtich is a dedicated Nonviolent Communication trainer, therapist, and engineer. His journey into NVC began after his career as an environmental engineer, driven by his desire to contribute to societal change through better communication. Bob's unique approach integrates empathy with analytical insights, honoring the importance of neurodivergence in his work and personal growth. He is a passionate advocate for using NVC as a bridge between self-awareness and impactful communication. In This Episode: Bob's personal journey with Nonviolent Communication and how it helped him find balance as a bipolar individual. The core principles of NVC: self-connection, empathy, and honesty. How to distinguish between needs and strategies, and why it matters in communication. The concept of holding multiple needs and strategies simultaneously for resilience and creativity. Balancing analytical insights with empathy in understanding neurodivergence. Practical exercises, including identifying three current needs and corresponding strategies. How NVC fosters community, shared power, and collaborative problem-solving. Bob's experiences teaching NVC to diverse audiences, including children and incarcerated individuals. The shift from "battle mode" to "build mode" in creating meaningful connections. Links and Resources: Learn more about Nonviolent Communication and its principles here. Learn more about Bob on his website! Explore Aurora's Neurodivergent Toolbox and other resources at the Embracing Intensity Shop. Get 25% off Aurora's digital products and memberships with code BIRTHDAY24 (valid until Dec 2). Whether you're new to Nonviolent Communication or a seasoned practitioner, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable strategies for enriching your connections with yourself and others. Tune in for a thought-provoking and uplifting discussion!

In this enriching episode, Aurora hosts Marc, who shares his profound insights on neurodivergent leadership. Marc introduces himself by recounting his journey with ADHD, from his early school years to receiving his diagnosis at 16. This pivotal moment spurred him to embrace and understand his unique brain function, leading to his certification as an ADHD life coach. Marc speaks proudly of founding the Men's ADHD Support Group, a 501c3 nonprofit with over 17,000 members, aiming to empower men with ADHD. He emphasizes the importance of leveraging the inherent strengths of neurodivergent individuals rather than conforming to societal norms. Marc's empathetic and mentorship-driven leadership style, rooted in his personal experiences, serves as a testament to the potential and efficacy of neurodivergent leaders. He addresses challenges such as imposter syndrome, the importance of passion in leadership, and strategies for effective communication within his organization. The discussion also touches on the nuances of the ADHD label, stressing a balanced view that acknowledges both strengths and challenges. About Marc: Marc Almodovar Jr. is a neurodiversity advocate and the founder of the ADHD Men's Support Group, a safe space where men with ADHD can connect with others who share common experiences and challenges. Marc's personal experience with ADHD led him to feel isolated and misunderstood, and he recognized the need for a supportive community. He believes that by fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance within the group, men with ADHD can advocate for neurodiversity awareness and acceptance within society as a whole. As a mental health advocate, Marc recognizes the stigma surrounding mental illness and strives to create a space where men with ADHD can feel safe and supported regardless of their unique ways of thinking and experiencing the world. He is passionate about raising awareness about neurodiversity and helping people understand the diverse ways in which people experience the world. With a balance of authenticity and positivity, Marc inspires others to embrace their unique strengths and connect with others within the neurodiverse community. In this episode: Marc discusses his experience with ADHD, including his diagnosis at 16 and its impact on his life. He shares how understanding his brain led him to personal development and becoming an ADHD life coach. Founding the Men's ADHD Support Group, a non-profit organization with over 17,000 members. People with ADHD often have strong leadership qualities. Leveraging strengths rather than conforming to societal norms. The importance of mentorship and leading by example. Personal and societal challenges neurodivergent leaders face, such as imposter syndrome and self-criticism. The value of self-affirmations and support systems in overcoming these challenges. Negative feedback and misconceptions about ADHD, especially related to gender. The need for safe spaces for men with ADHD and dispelling myths around the condition. Giving constructive feedback while staying authentic. Using "kind candor" and focusing on team collaboration to improve feedback delivery. Resources available for partners of men with ADHD, including support groups and public content. The debate around viewing ADHD as a gift versus a disorder. Recognizing both the strengths and challenges of ADHD without labeling it strictly as one or the other. Resources: Join our Community & Check out our calendar of upcoming events! Embracing Intensity Memberships Join the ADHD Men's Support Group Follow the ADHD Men's Support Group on Twitter Follow Marc on Twitter

In this solo episode, I delve into my personal journey of overcoming a prolonged burnout to explore the concept of truly restful rest. I discuss the five areas of energy balance—physical, emotional, mental, social, and connection—from my 'Balancing Your Time and Energy' workbook. Through my experience, including the importance of joy-driven activities, social connections, and the INCUP (Interest, Novelty, Challenge, Urgency, and Passion) framework, I provide practical advice on how to replenish energy reserves effectively. Also, discover the value of doing an energy audit to identify draining versus energizing activities. Learn more about my strategies for achieving genuine rest and explore my workbook collection for further guidance. In this Episode: Experiencing burnout and the importance of restful rest. Five Areas of Energy Balance: Physical, Emotional, Mental, Social, and Connection. Physical Rest: Emphasizes the importance of activities that truly relax the nervous system, like going for walks. Mental Rest: Stresses shifting focus to activities driven by joy rather than duty to avoid energy drain. Emotional Rest: Highlights the significance of assertive actions over anxiety-driven actions. Social Rest: Explains how spending time with comfortable social connections can be energizing. Connection: Discusses the importance of feeling connected to oneself, others, and the world. Motivation Factors: INCUP - Interest, Novelty, Challenge, Urgency, and Passion - as motivational strategies. Urgency: Talks about creating a sense of urgency through public accountability to stay motivated. Challenge: Transforming tasks into challenges to stay engaged and motivated. Interest: Recommends revisiting previous interests to reignite passion. Novelty and Passion: Encourages switching things up to maintain novelty and passion in tasks. Join our upcoming community call on the healing power of music! Resources: Join the Embracing Intensity Community for our upcoming call!

This week on Embracing Intensity, we share part of our call with Sharon J. Burton on "Creativity as Self-Care." Sharon delves into a chapter from her upcoming book "Creative Sparks" that explores how embracing creativity can be a powerful form of self-care. Through affirmations, inspiration, and practical tips, Sharon will guide attendees on how to use their creative talents to nurture their well-being, reduce stress, and cultivate a more mindful and fulfilling life. Join us for an enlightening discussion on the transformative power of creativity in self-care practices. Join us for an engaging discussion with Sharon, a creativity coach, visual artist, teaching artist, yoga nidra guide, meditation guide, poet, and soon-to-be author. Sharon shares her journey back to art after pursuing a traditional career path and emphasizes the importance of creativity as self-care. The conversation covers themes such as the challenges and joys of embracing creativity at midlife, especially for those who may not have received encouragement earlier in life due to societal pressures towards more conventional careers. Sharon introduces her upcoming book, 'Creative Sparks: 21 Affirmations and Inspirations for Creativity at Midlife,' aimed at inspiring people to reconnect with their creativity. The discussion also explores the significance of creativity for personal growth, mental health, and cultural expression, particularly within the African American community. Additionally, it addresses overcoming common obstacles like the inner critic, imposter syndrome, and societal expectations, encouraging listeners to give themselves permission to explore their passions and creative impulses fully. About Sharon Sharon J. Burton is a visual artist, art curator, poet and certified creative coach and Founder of Spark Your Creative Coaching. Since 2016, she has focused on helping people in "creative recovery"... those looking to revive or jump start their creativity through group and individual coaching, workshops, her blog and as the host of Spark Your Creative Podcast which features artists and other creatives who are using their unique talents to create more mindful communities and a safer world. Sharon is a certified creativity coach through the Creativity Coaching Association. She completed requirements for the professional certificate in Art Business from New York University and a certificate in Art History through the Smithsonian. a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration and a Master of Public Administration. Sharon is also a Level II, Reiki Certified practitioner and received her Breath Work + Meditation Teacher Certification. Sharon infuses her creativity coaching with wellness practices to help her clients break through the blocks that prevent them from fully engaging in their creative potential. In this episode: Aurora welcomes Sharon Burton to the "Embracing Intensity" podcast to discuss creativity as self-care. Sharon reflects on reconnecting with Aurora after years and discusses the importance of creativity in her life and others'. Aurora mentions the podcast's start in 2016, noting Sharon's early appearance in its second year. Sharon introduces herself as a creativity coach, visual artist, yoga nidra and meditation guide, and soon-to-be author. The discussion pivots to Sharon's upcoming book, "Creative Sparks: 21 Affirmations and Inspirations for Creativity at Midlife," focused on encouraging creativity in midlife individuals. Sharon shares her journey from pursuing a practical business degree to rediscovering her artistic side, emphasizing the challenge and reward of returning to creativity. A chapter from Sharon's book is shared, highlighting how creative practice can serve as a powerful form of self-care and aid in stress reduction, self-expression, self-discovery, boosting self-esteem, and promoting physical well-being. Aurora and Sharon discuss the societal pressures that often discourage creative pursuits and share personal insights on recognizing and affirming one's creativity. The conversation includes questions from the audience, exploring challenges faced by multi-talented individuals and ways to prioritize creativity amidst life's demands. Discussion on where creativity comes from, suggesting it can originate both from within the mind and beyond the physical body. The dialogue transitions to a discussion segment, where Sheldon joins to emphasize the unique experiences of creativity within the Black community and the impact of cultural and societal expectations. Sharon responds by highlighting the evolving opportunities for creative expression enabled by technology and the importance of embracing creativity at any life stage. Aurora wraps up by summarizing key takeaways: understanding one's creative "why," giving oneself permission to prioritize creativity, and inviting listeners to explore Sharon's upcoming book as a resource for inspiration and empowerment. Sharon concludes with details about her book launch, her podcast, and how to connect with her online for more insights into fostering creativity. Resources: Sharon's Website Sharon's Book! I Must Be Bug'n Podcast Embracing Intensity Memberships Join our Community & Check out our calendar of upcoming events!

In this engaging conversation, Aurora sits down with the multi-talented Princess Fortier, a beacon of inspiration in the journey of embracing one's intensity. Princess shares her remarkable story, from neuroscientist to singer and model, highlighting how music became her tool for healing and transforming her life. Together, they delve into the themes of harnessing personal intensity, pursuing passions beyond conventional boundaries, and the power of gratitude journaling. Princess's insight provides a riveting exploration of living life unbounded and the beauty of connecting deeply with one's passions. Join us as we uncover the synergy between harmony and intensity, and discover how embracing your full self can lead to a fulfilling and impactful life. Discover how Princess overcame intense migraines through her passion for singing, marking a pivotal shift in her life that not only cured her physically but also steered her towards a fulfilling career in music. Throughout the episode, Princess shares her multifaceted experiences, from her challenges with perfectionism and navigating cultural expressions to engaging deeply with neurodiversity and entrepreneurship. Aurora and Princess delve into the significance of embracing one's intensity, using personal fire for positive impact, and the liberation found in gratitude and self-expression. This episode is a testament to the strength found in vulnerability, the beauty of pursuing one's passions, and the value of community support. Tune in to be inspired, find connection, and discover how to channel your own intensity into a force for good. This episode not only celebrates Princess's remarkable contributions to the field of music and arts but also sheds light on how embracing one's intensity can lead to groundbreaking discoveries and personal healing. Listen in as Princess shares her thoughts on perseverance, the significance of music in her life, her battle against perfectionism, and her spirited advocacy for journaling and gratitude as tools for navigating life's challenges. In this episode Princess is an inspiring figure who transitioned from a neuroscientist to a singer/model and has been featured in shows like Abbott Elementary and All American. Princess shares her unique story of how singing cured her chronic migraines, leading her to pursue a full-time music career. The power of journaling, especially gratitude journaling, as a tool for self-reflection and goal setting. Princess discusses the challenges and benefits of embracing one's intensity, including her resistance to being limited by societal expectations and finding freedom in diversity. The dialogue touches on topics like neurodivergence, perfectionism, the importance of setting boundaries, and the impact of cultural and familial pressures. Aurora and Princess share experiences of dealing with rejection sensitivity and the internal struggle of wanting to be liked and approved. They explore the concept of using one's 'fire' for good, including sharing knowledge, setting examples for others, and creating transformative art. Princess discusses how engaging in multiple passions, such as music and entrepreneurship, has allowed her to express her intensity in various domains. Aurora emphasizes the importance of self-care and taking breaks to prevent burnout, acknowledging her own past of working on urgency. The conversation also covers strategies for harnessing one's intensity and sensitivity, with Princess highlighting the power of gratitude practices. Princess encourages the audience to let go of perfectionism and embrace their passions. Both speakers reflect on personal growth, the importance of authentic self-expression, and supporting others in their journey to embrace their intensity. Princess shares ways to connect with her and learn more about her journey and work, including her website and upcoming appearances. Resources: Princess on Instagram Princess' Website Join our Community & Check out our calendar of upcoming events! Embracing Intensity Memberships