Spirits Beside Us

Overthinking a big decision because you're afraid of making the wrong choice? The more risks you weigh, the less certain you feel. Learn how to stop overthinking, break analysis paralysis, and separate real risks from fear before you decide.When you're facing an important decision about your career, relationships, money, or future, thinking harder seems like the responsible thing to do. But what happens when all that thinking makes you more confused, overwhelmed, and afraid of making a mistake?After 30 years making high-stakes investment decisions on Wall Street, I've learned that more information doesn't always lead to better decisions. Sometimes it just gives us more ways to worry.In this episode, I'll explain how fear of regret affects your judgment, why overthinking decisions can lead to analysis paralysis, and how to recognize when your thinking has stopped helping. I'll also share real examples from my decision clarity coaching and teach you a simple three-step process to separate facts from fears, quiet the mental noise, and make difficult decisions with greater confidence.What You'll LearnWhy overthinking makes decisions harder — How fear, stress, and overwhelm can distort your judgment.How fear disguises itself as useful information — Learn to separate facts, predictions, assumptions, and mental noise.The one question that exposes unproductive thinking — Recognize when you're gathering useful information versus creating more reasons to worry.How to stop overthinking with Pause, Label, Listen — A practical three-step method from my C.L.A.R.I.T.Y. framework.How to move forward without knowing the future — Understand real risks, explore your options, and take meaningful steps without demanding absolute certainty.Free Decision Clarity ChallengeStuck on an important decision?Discover what's interfering with your clarity and why you keep second-guessing yourself.Take my FREE Decision Clarity Challenge: HERETimeline00:00 — Why thinking harder can make decisions worse01:30 — How fear and stress distort your judgment03:10 — Why more information doesn't always help04:40 — When fear starts looking like facts06:15 — Fear of regret: Is your decision really irreversible?07:45 — The one question that reveals when you're overthinking09:15 — How to stop overthinking: Pause, Label, Listen12:00 — Taking the next step without knowing the future13:15 — What if you make the wrong decision?Have a decision you can't seem to make? Take the free Decision Clarity Audit to uncover what's keeping you stuck and get clearer about what to do next. Take the free audit here.Struggling with consistency in your spiritual practice? 🧘 Tap HERE to Follow the show and automate your journey so you never miss an episode!

Different relationship. Different job. Different decision. So why do you keep ending up with the same feeling? If you keep repeating patterns in relationships, work, or decision-making, the answer may have less to do with your circumstances than you think.What if the recurring problem isn’t actually the pattern—but evidence that a deeper pattern exists? Overthinking, people-pleasing, self-doubt, and constantly looking to others for reassurance can quietly shape what you do next. Greater self-awareness and self-trust can start with one deceptively simple question: What stayed the same?You change jobs, relationships, circumstances, even the decisions you make. Yet somehow you can end up thinking, How the hell am I here again?That doesn’t mean you created everything that happened to you. Bad bosses exist. Relationships fail. Financial problems are real. Life happens.But between what happens to you and what happens next, there’s something worth examining: how you interpret the situation and how that interpretation influences what you repeatedly do.Maybe you stop speaking up. Maybe you overgive. Maybe you look outside yourself for reassurance. Maybe you wait for certainty before acting. Or maybe you tolerate something until circumstances finally make the decision for you.Chris breaks down the cycle of situation → interpretation → response → result and shows how a response that makes perfect sense in the moment can quietly reinforce the very experience you’re trying to escape.You’ll also hear a powerful mediumship story about a father whose repeated decision to hold back his emotions eventually became one of his deepest regrets—and why the small choices you make repeatedly may matter far more than one enormous decision.The goal isn’t self-blame. It’s awareness. Because once you can see what you keep bringing into different situations, you may discover that you have far more influence over what happens next than you realized.What You’ll LearnWhy changing your circumstances doesn’t always change your experienceThe difference between what happened to you and what you repeatedly did nextHow interpretation can influence your response—and reinforce the outcome you expectedThe simple question “What stayed the same?” and how to use it when a problem keeps returningWhy overthinking, people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, and seeking reassurance can make perfect sense beneath the surfaceHow small decisions repeated over time can quietly become a life patternChapters00:00 — How the Hell Am I Here Again? 03:07 — The Mistake We Make When Circumstances Change 06:15 — When Overthinking Becomes the Pattern 09:12 — What Happens Between the Event and the Outcome 13:20 — The Question: What Stayed the Same? 17:33 — When Small Decisions Become a Life PatternStruggling with a decision right now? Take the free Decision Clarity Audit:Decision Clarity AuditJoin our community HERE.  Get all the resources and show notes for this episode on my website, spiritsbesideus.com. Learn more about the Private Decision Clarity Reset HERE

What if your circumstances aren’t the real problem? Your beliefs and mindset may be quietly shaping your choices, life patterns, and what happens next.You can change jobs, relationships, habits, or circumstances and still find yourself facing strangely familiar problems. That’s because an old belief can follow you into completely different areas of your life without you realizing the same inner story is still operating.Struggling with a decision? Start with the free Decision Clarity Audit →Two people can experience remarkably similar circumstances and make completely different choices afterward. Not because their beliefs magically created what happened, but because beliefs influence what we notice, how we interpret events, what we expect, what we tolerate, what we pursue, and what we do next.That distinction is the difference between control and agency.You cannot control everything that happens to you. But you can begin recognizing the beliefs and life patterns influencing how you respond.And once you see the common thread, you may discover that problems you thought were completely unrelated are connected by an old belief you’ve carried for years.What You’ll Learn:• Why circumstances and beliefs can influence each other• How two people can experience the same event and respond completely differently• How beliefs shape choices, expectations, behavior, and outcomes• Why old limiting beliefs can quietly affect relationships, career, money, and emotional health• The difference between trying to control life and developing personal agency• How past experiences can create beliefs that continue influencing your present• How to recognize the common thread underneath repeating life patterns• A simple exercise for identifying the core beliefs influencing your choices• Why changing your inner story can change what you tolerate, pursue, and accept• How greater self-awareness can create meaningful personal growth and changeChapters:00:00 Introduction: Why Circumstances Don't Tell the Whole Story00:27 The Relationship Between Circumstances and Beliefs00:56 How Two People React Differently to the Same Event01:22 The Power of Beliefs in Shaping Outcomes01:52 Beliefs Are Not About Math or Specific Situations02:20 The Impact of Limiting Beliefs on Multiple Life Areas02:49 The Difference Between Control and Agency03:18 Recognizing and Challenging Old Beliefs03:46 The Exercise to Identify Core Beliefs04:15 The Importance of Recognizing the Underlying Story04:43 Conclusion: Changing the Inner Story to Change Your LifeListen Next:“Why You Keep Overthinking What Your Intuition Already Knows”Spotting the belief is only the beginning. The next step is learning how to separate your actual inner signal from fear, conditioning, self-doubt, anxiety, and all the mental noise surrounding it.If this conversation resonated with you, subscribe and share it with someone who may be trying to fix what’s happening around them without recognizing the story operating underneath it.Love and Light,ChrisJoin our community HERE.  Get all the resources and show notes for this episode on my website, spiritsbesideus.com. Learn more about the Private Decision Clarity Reset HERE

You think they know how you feel—but they don’t. A mediumship reading reveals the hidden gap between feeling love and actually expressing it. Join our Top 10 Spirituality Podcast.Want to feel more connected to Spirit in just 10 minutes?Download your free guided meditation:👉 montclairmedium.com/free-meditationMost people believe they’re open in their relationships. They’re honest. They care. They assume the important things are already understood. But there’s a gap most people don’t see: 👉 what you feel vs 👉 what the other person actually experiences.After thousands of mediumship readings, one pattern shows up again and again: “I thought they knew.” “I didn’t say it enough.” Not because people didn’t love deeply…but because they didn’t express it in real time. In this episode, a powerful reading stands out—because it was different. Nothing was left unsaid. And that contrast reveals exactly where most relationships slowly create distance without realizing it.What You’ll Learn:Why honesty isn’t the same as emotional expressionThe hidden communication gap that makes people feel disconnectedWhy “they already know” quietly weakens relationships over timeWhat actually makes someone feel loved (not just assume it)The pattern that shows up in real readings—and what it reveals about regretIf you’ve ever thought: “They know how I feel…” This will change how you see your relationships—and what you say (or don’t say) moving forward.Get all the resources and show notes for this episode on my website, spiritsbesideus.com. Follow the show and share with those who can benefit. It means a lot to us.Learn more about the Private Decision Clarity Reset HERE

You think you can deal with it later… but that’s how it gets worse—and by the time you realize it, it’s too late. Join our Top 10 Spirituality Podcast.In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of avoidance—why delaying things that feel manageable in the moment can lead to bigger consequences in your health, relationships, and decision-making.You’ll learn how the pattern of “I’ll deal with it later” shows up in everyday life, why ignoring early signals creates long-term problems, and how to recognize these moments before they turn into regret.You’ll recognize this if:• you’ve ever thought “I’ll handle it later”• you’ve ignored something that felt off physically or emotionally• you’ve delayed a conversation you knew you needed to have• someone close to you has said “I’m worried”… and you brushed it offWhat You’ll Learn:• Why delaying action creates bigger consequences over time• The hidden pattern behind “I’ve got it” and self-reliance• What people consistently realize too late after they pass• How subtle avoidance shows up in everyday moments• The question that can interrupt this pattern in real timeStart here:https://montclairmedium.com/free-meditationChapters00:00 The Importance of Listening to Warnings05:45 The Consequences of Ignoring Health Signals10:16 The Emotional Escape of 'I'll Deal With It Later'15:23 Understanding Concern from Loved Ones21:38 Recognizing Moments Before They Become RegretsGet all the resources and show notes for this episode on my website, spiritsbesideus.com. Join our community on Facebook. Learn more about the Private Decision Clarity Reset HERE

Booked out but still underpaid? Many intuitive practitioners have full calendars yet unstable income. The problem isn’t more clients—it’s hidden business leaks. Join our Top 10 Spirituality Podcast.If your intuitive business looks successful but financial stability still feels fragile, the issue usually isn’t demand. It’s structure.Many intuitive practitioners—energy healers, mediums, coaches, Reiki practitioners, yoga teachers, and spiritual guides—build businesses that generate revenue but quietly drain profit through poor pricing strategy, emotional labor overload, and structural business leaks.Chris Lippincott—CFA, MBA, former Wall Street financial analyst, and longtime intuitive practitioner—breaks down why so many spiritual businesses stay busy but financially unstable.Instead of chasing more clients, you’ll learn how to rethink your entrepreneurial mindset, repair hidden business leaks, and build a business structure that actually supports your life.You’ll learn:• Why being booked out doesn’t guarantee financial stability• The hidden business leaks draining income from intuitive practices• How emotional labor quietly destroys profitability• Why most intuitive practitioners struggle with pricing strategy• The difference between revenue growth and true business stability• The mindset shifts required to build a sustainable spiritual business• How better business structure increases income without more clientsIf you’re an intuitive practitioner trying to stabilize your income while doing meaningful work, this discussion will help you rethink how your business actually operates.We'd love to hear your comments! Please leave your comments and takeaways about the episode below. We read every one.Learn more at https://montclairmedium.com/ Learn more about the Private Decision Clarity Reset HERE

Is it intuition or anxiety? If you are struggling to tell the difference, you are not alone. In this episode, I explain why true spiritual guidance is never loud and how to finally stop overthinking so you can break the mental loop of doubt. Join our Top 10 Spirituality Podcast.If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by a decision, wondering if that "urgent feeling" is a warning sign or just fear pretending to be helpful, this episode is for you. We often mistake the loudness of anxiety for the importance of a message. But as you'll learn, your true inner voice doesn't scream—it whispers.In this episode, we explore:The "Siren" Trap: Why anxiety attacks use urgency to trick you, and how to spot the difference between survival instinct and true intuition.Decoding the Texture: How to identify the "jagged," constricted energy of fear versus the "smooth," expanded nature of trusting your intuition.The Relief Trap: Why making a fast decision just to end the tension is usually just "solving an emotion" rather than finding mental clarity.Practical Discernment Tools: How to use the "Return Test" to filter out mental noise and hear your inner voice clearly.Timestamps: (00:00) The "Loudness" Trap: Why Anxiety Feels Like Truth (08:31) The "Texture" of Intuition (Constriction vs. Expansion) (17:18) Breaking the Loop: How to Trust the Silence (22:49) The "Return Test" for Instant Clarity (23:45) Final Encouragement & Next StepsListen Next:Mistaking Anxiety for Intuition? Here’s WhyConnect with Chris: If this episode resonated with you, please follow the show and leave a 5-star rating. Get all the resources and show notes for this episode on my website, spiritsbesideus.com. Join our community on Facebook. Learn more about the Private Decision Clarity Reset HERE

The loudest thought in your head feels urgent—but it’s usually wrong. Learn how to separate mental noise from real clarity.If you keep looping on decisions, it’s not because you’re indecisive. It’s because mental noise is drowning out clarity. Join our Top 10 Spirituality Podcast.In this episode, we break down why the thoughts that feel loud, urgent, or repetitive often block good decision-making—especially for smart, self-aware people.You’ll learn how the ego mind is wired to protect you by keeping you in what feels safe, familiar, and controlled—even when that protection shows up as overthinking, hesitation, and decision fatigue.This isn’t about motivation, mindset tricks, or calming your thoughts.It’s about understanding how decisions actually get distorted under pressure—and how to tell the difference between mental noise and useful signal in real time.When you can separate the two, decisions stop feeling heavy. Confidence returns. And you stop fighting yourself.What You’ll LearnWhy urgency is often a false signal in decision-makingHow mental noise is created by fear, stress, and ego protectionThe real difference between overthinking and clarityWhy high performers struggle most with decision fatigueA practical way to identify clear signal vs mental noiseWho This Episode Is ForBusiness owners and leaders making high-stakes decisionsHigh performers stuck in analysis paralysisAnyone exhausted from second-guessingListeners seeking clarity without hype or spirituality🎧 Listen Next 👉 The Real Reason You Can’t Decide💬 Join the ConversationWhat’s one decision you’ve been stuck on longer than you’d like?Send me your thoughts or share this episode with someone who’s overthinking right now.Get all the resources and show notes for this episode on my website, spiritsbesideus.com. Join our community on Facebook.