This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

Shownotes Why your pelvic floor affects everything from sex to core strength How to make self-pleasure double as pelvic floor training Why moisturizing your vulva matters as much as moisturizing your face Dr. Sara's number one piece of advice for better orgasms A simple, guided pelvic floor love practice you can do at home What Dr. Sara thinks all boys should know about the female body Bio Dr. Sara Reardon is a board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist, widely known as The Vagina Whisperer on Instagram and TikTok. She's the creator of The V-Hive App, an online pelvic floor workout app for pregnancy, postpartum, menopause, painful sex, and pelvic floor strengthening. Sara has been featured in The Washington Post, Time Magazine, NPR, Harper's Bazaar, The Today Show, and numerous other podcasts, publications, and professional conferences for her advocacy and educational work as pelvic floor physical therapist. She is a TED presenter on Rethinking Postpartum Care and the author of the national bestselling book FLOORED: A Woman's Guide to Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage. Follow Dr. Sara on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the.vagina.whisperer, TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@thevagwhisperer, LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-reardon-pt, YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@thevaginawhisperer, and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thevagwhisperer. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:47 - Join Layla's email list to receive free practices, in-depth teachings, and new episodes https://laylamartin.com/ 00:00:54 - Guest introduction 00:02:23 - Dr. Sara and Layla share their own stories of peeing during activity 00:07:33 - What your pelvic floor actually is and what parts of your body it supports 00:05:33 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification https://laylamartin.com/coaching-certification/vita-coaching 00:14:53 - What causes dryness and how it can contribute to pain 00:20:08 - Why consent is at the core of every step of pelvic floor work 00:23:44 - [AD] 2 FREE sticks of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir with code PODCAST at checkout https://shopmood.com/shop-all/mood-sex-magic-sexy-plant-activated-elixir/ 00:26:42 - The one thing Dr. Sara wants to whisper to the entire world's vaginas 00:32:27 - How Layla talks to her pussy during medical procedures (and why it helps) 00:39:47 - Why you should care for your vulva the same way you care for your face 00:50:22 - What an "O-Day" is and why a patient sends the clinic flowers every year 00:54:34 - Dr. Sara's top advice for having better orgasms 01:01:53 - A simple, guided pelvic floor love practice you can do at home 01:03:33 - Conclusion

Shownotes How the losing her greatest love taught Mama Gena about eros What healing truly is (and what it isn't) Why the only prayer in the Goddess tradition is "thank you" What Layla learned throughout two years of ongoing illness Why Mama Gena was thrown out of the cathedral on Park Avenue What Mama Gena wants every woman to feel when she's on her knees Bio Regena Thomashauer, better known as Mama Gena, is a pioneering voice in women's empowerment, a bestselling author, teacher, feminist icon, and the founder and CEO of the School of Womanly Arts, which began in her living room in 1998 and has since grown into a global movement. For more than three decades, Regena has devoted her work to restoring what has been systematically stripped from women: our connection to the body, our desires, our emotional lives, and our right to want more. At the heart of her teaching is a radical truth: pleasure is a form of power. And when a woman is fully expressed – in her body, her desires, her voice – she moves differently. She tolerates less and expects more. The stakes of her life become visible, and she responds accordingly. This work is rooted in lived experience, decades of research, and the real-world results of hundreds of thousands of students. It has changed the way women relate to themselves, the standards they hold, and the lives they are willing to claim. Regena is the author of five books, including the New York Times bestseller Pussy: A Reclamation, and has been widely recognized as a leading voice in modern feminism. Regena's approach is both deeply personal and unmistakably collective. In a culture that shames our bodies and suppresses our emotions, her work serves as a vital antidote that offers not only tools for survival, but a pathway to turn-on, truth, and full-bodied liberation. Her conviction: that the feminine, long suppressed, is the force that will change everything. These teachings don't just challenge the status quo. They transform it. Buy your copy of Mama Gena's new book, On Our Knees. Learn more about Mama Gena on her website and follow her on Instagram. Go deeper into your own transformation and turn your healing journey into a thriving business inside VITA™ Coaching ✨ The class of 2027 is enrolling now, submit your application today to unlock the best price and a full VITA Coaching bonus suite! Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:52 - Guest introduction 00:02:53 - Join Layla's email list to receive free practices, in-depth teachings, and new episodes 00:04:17 - Why Layla was the very first person to read On Our Knees 00:05:33 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:12:27 - What brought Mama Gena to her knees feeling betrayed by God and Goddess 00:15:22 - An invitation: let discomfort move through you and remake you 00:18:13 - How the losing her greatest love taught Mama Gena about eros 00:23:44 - [AD] 2 FREE sticks of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir with code PODCAST at checkout 00:28:15 - What got Mama Gena thrown out of the cathedral on Park Avenue 00:38:28 - What healing truly is (and what it isn't) 00:43:03 - The only prayer in the Goddess tradition is "thank you" 00:51:25 - What Layla learned throughout two years of ongoing illness 01:02:22 - Why the entire proposal for On Our Knees was rewritten in deep surrender to life 01:10:44 - What Mama Gena wants every woman to feel when she's on her knees in the dark 01:15:27 - On Our Knees is the guidebook for hell that we've needed for a long time 01:16:43 - Conclusion

Shownotes The #1 piece of advice for men who want to become multi-orgasmic What prostate massage can teach men about sex What happens when men are socialized out of anal pleasure How slowness retrains patterns while intensity causes shutdown Why men need as much safety and self-love as women do The one book Devah says every man should be reading Bio Devah Curlechéile is a sex, intimacy, and sensual embodiment guide whose journey began in Ireland. Raised Catholic, he felt from an early age that life held far more than what he had been shown. After graduating with a degree in Neuroscience from Trinity College Dublin, he left Ireland at 25 and began a decades long global quest to explore the deeper mysteries of human potential, consciousness, energy, and healing. Over 20 years of travel and study, Devah immersed himself in a range of practices, including Reiki, Sound Healing, Tantra, meditation, shamanic medicine, conscious intimacy, EFT, and tantra massage. His path was shaped by various initiations, including breaking his back twice, navigating depression, sitting with large doses of the various Entheogen's, integrating suppressed parts of himself through transformative experiences in Tokyo's conscious kink underground, and studying tantra and tantra massage in Bali with Ma Ananda Sarita. Along the way, he also discovered the extraordinary potential of intimate connection with himself and others to open transcendent states of consciousness, cosmic orgasm, and deep embodied awakening. Now based on Kauai, Devah feels deeply called to help others reconnect with the wisdom of their bodies, awaken their senses, and access greater intimacy, healing, and expansion. Known for his compassionate heart, grounded presence, and nurturing approach, he creates spaces where people can feel safe, seen, and held in reverence as they explore, rediscover, and remember these pleasurable dimensions of embodiment. Follow Devah on Instagram and learn more about his work on his website. Does learning about Tantra, embodiment, and intimate connection light you up? VITA™ Coaching is your next step ✨ Doors open soon, join the waitlist to be the first to know when they do! Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:47 - Guest introduction 00:03:48 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:07:19 - Why Devah recommends starting with a prostate massage before yoni dearmoring 00:11:13 - What Layla experienced when she saw Devah receive a prostate massage 00:15:00 - How to practice the microcosmic orbit to circulate your sexual energy 00:17:17 - Why grounding matters just as much as transcendence in Taoist Tantra 00:20:06 - Men are being socialized out of anal pleasure 00:26:17 - What self-pleasure on psychedelics can teach you about circulating energy 00:27:40 - [AD] 2 FREE sticks of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir with code PODCAST at checkout 00:28:35 - What helps men to open up when their bodies are shut down from shame 00:37:52 - What a deeply intentional self-pleasure practice for men looks like 00:43:29 - The shift from dopamine sex to oxytocin sex 00:49:14 - The #1 piece of advice for men learning to become multi-orgasmic 00:57:31 - Why learning things while playing makes you 9x more likely to retain them 01:01:43 - How to worship the entire body before approaching the yoni 01:05:19 - Encouraging consent creates the safety needed for deeper pleasure 01:13:36 - How to hold space for a partner having an emotional experience 01:20:33 - An explanation of the "clock technique" to learn the inside of the yoni 01:25:56 - How Devah's queer sexual experiences made him a better lover to women 01:29:13 - What polarity really means and how to use it energetically 01:31:09 - Conclusion

Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my ⁠FREE VITA Coaching Checklist⁠ How Shay's childhood taught her the impact trauma has on adult relationships Why we have a tendency to draw in partners who are a perfect match for our wound How to know if you're in a dead end dynamic in your relationship The one question Shay asks herself when her inner saboteur comes up The importance of loving your parts so they don't hijack you in destructive ways Bio Shay Aiyana is the best-selling author of Becoming the One and the founder of Rising Woman, a global community dedicated to self-healing, relational transformation, and spiritual embodiment. Her work blends somatic awareness, inner child healing, and grounded spiritual insight to guide millions through the landscapes of heartbreak, love, and personal rebirth. With a writing style that is both poetic and piercingly clear, Shay weaves personal storytelling with practical tools to offer readers a deeply human, emotionally resonant experience. Her words are a balm for those who have been lost in self-abandonment, teaching them how to come home to themselves with compassion and truth. Having grown up in foster care and overcome cycles of abuse, addiction, and heartbreak, Shay's teachings are not theoretical – they are lived. Through Rising Woman, she has helped millions remember that healing is not about becoming someone else, but about reclaiming the love, power, and wholeness that was always theirs. Learn more about Shay's work on the ⁠Rising Woman website⁠ and follow her on Instagram ⁠@sheleanaaiyana⁠ Timestamps 00:00:00 - Take your business to the next level with my ⁠FREE VITA Coaching Checklist ⁠ 00:00:59 - Discover the ⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification ⁠ 00:02:29 - Guest introduction 00:04:39 - How Shay's childhood taught her the impact trauma has on adult relationships 00:07:30 - Why we have a tendency to draw in partners who are a perfect match for our wound 00:09:26 - How raising a child has helped Shay recognize adult attachment behaviors 00:13:01 - There are different levels of the expression of your wounds 00:17:04 - Why attachment and trauma wounds need to heal through relationships 00:21:24 - What is a healthy amount of healing that can be done in a relationship? 00:23:14 - How to know if you're in a dead end dynamic in your relationship 00:27:01 - A conversation that taught Shay she wasn't the partner she thought she was 00:29:31 - What it looks like to let your partner off the hook but still be self-responsible 00:32:14 - Get 2 FREE stick packs of ⁠MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir⁠ using code PODCAST at checkout 00:36:03 - How changing your self-approach to "I've got you little one" shifts everything 00:40:52 - How being honest about your hurt in the moment improves your relationship 00:46:30 - How bringing "death energy" to her husband deepened Shay's marriage 00:49:49 - The one question Shay asks herself when her inner saboteur comes up 00:52:31 - A breakdown of Shay's first book, Becoming the One 00:56:52 - Layla's biggest takeaway from this powerful conversation 01:01:43 - True mastery is loving your parts so they don't hijack you in destructive ways 01:04:40 - 4 pieces of wisdom Shay used to create a better life than she was born into 01:06:38 - Conclusion

Shownotes Terry's "grid" that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships The difference between individual empowerment and relational empowerment Which quadrant of the grid Layla is on and how she got there Why Terry calls our relationships our "biosphere" Terry's best advice for shifting out of anger and into connection A powerful guided boundary practice to follow along with Bio Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and best-selling author committed to helping you build the lasting, loving relationships you deserve. The author of four books, including the recent New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, Terry knows how to lead people on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy and personal fulfillment. His revolutionary approach to couples therapy, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), underpins all of his books, courses and teachings. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work and cultivate authentic connections – to themselves, each other and the planet as a whole. A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples and fellow therapists. His extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce garnered Terry the reputation of "the turnaround guy," and demand from other therapists to learn his RLT method skyrocketed. To bring the remarkable results of RLT to as many people as possible, Terry established his Relational Life Institute. To date, thousands of mental health practitioners have benefited from a whole new perspective on couples therapy that has transformed their clients, their practice and their own relationships. Terry is passionately committed to empowering us all with the essential relational skills for meaningful relationships. Learn more about Terry's work on his website and take his FREE quiz. Timestamps 00:00:56 - Guest introduction 00:01:12 - What Terry's book Fierce Intimacy taught Layla 00:05:03 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:05:43 - Terry shares the work that inspired his grid 00:07:00 - Terry's "grid" that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships 00:09:47 - Why we have a hard time centering our own self-esteem 00:11:21 - Terry gives a real life example of self-esteem 00:15:33 - How to get out of one down or one up on the grid 00:21:10 - Say whatever you have to say, but do it from the heart 00:23:55 - Individual empowerment vs relational empowerment 00:26:10 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:28:41 - Why Terry believes that our relationships are our biosphere 00:37:54 - Unlock your deepest pleasure with MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:38:42 - Layla reveals which quadrant she is in on the grid 00:46:36 - What allowed Layla's pain and desperation to finally dissolve 00:48:52 - Terry guides Layla through an inner child exercise 00:57:45 - Discover your sexual potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality 01:01:38 - The mysticism of marriage 01:07:55 - How Layla chose to be happy no matter what her partner is doing 01:10:50 - Guidance on how to shift out of anger 01:15:44 - Terry guides Layla and listeners through a boundary exercise 01:20:53 - Take Terry's quiz to find out where you are on the grid 01:22:08 - Conclusion