Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Hey lady, welcome to Fall! This season is perfect for sweaters, soup, and shedding. As the temperature cools and you find yourself drawn inward, you can now use this time to shed some of the survival programming and strategies so that you can return to the true you. This week, Terri and Dr. Dom lovingly discuss how they’ve endured seasons of straight survival without even realizing it. Lady, hindsight is absolutely 20/20. One day you look back at the past couple of years you grit your way through despite not letting it show that you are going through it and say to yourself wow! The amount of life-changing, truly transformative events can blow your mind. But, once you get past the wave of emotions that may come up you now have an amazing opportunity to chart a course – one from a place of wholeness and abundance, not scratching and surviving. Tune in for strategies on how to optimize your time and your life now that you are in a place to do what you want to do, not only what you can or have to do. And, girl, if you are not a member of our Patreon you are missing out! We have exclusives, first look content, and real sister friend camaraderie that will help you expand both your mind and your community. We’re waiting for you!   Need a boost of passion? Love Unlimited lets you choose from premium brands for a curated selection of lingerie, toys, and wellness products to enhance your pleasure. For a limited time, take 25% off all of the lingerie at loveunlimited.com/herspace with code HERSPACE. 90 day Love It Guarantee on every order. Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Drive Boost for libido support. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, by now you know the most uncomfortable part of your becoming is just that, the discomfort. The next version of you requires a shedding of all of the ways that kept you safe because those ways are likely now what are keeping you small. Knowing that doesn’t make the actual act of shifting your life any easier, which is why Terri and Dr. Dom stop by this week to offer some comfort and a few strategies to help you navigate these changes in a way that is authentic to you. Whether it’s shifting a relationship by removing contact or allowing yourself to shatter your own worldview, there is a quiet power in making yourself comfortable in the liminal spaces in your life. So, how do you make the most of the vastness between the old and new you? Tune in this week for tips on how to cultivate a level of curiosity so that you can decorate your interior life with what feels real and true for you. Lady, this life is a journey – a beautiful, bumpy ride ripe with opportunities for meaning, connection, and impact. What do you want this life to feel like? Once you are clear, you can know for sure, that it is yours to be had. Happy creating, lady!   This episode is brought to you by VB Health, supplements that work. Check out Soaking Wet for vaginal health. With daily use, many people report improvements within 1–2 weeks. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri ask you one very important question: who is holding you? When the days get long, and the load is overwhelming, are you the only person you can rely on? If that sounds familiar then grab your favorite throw blanket, get cozy and let this episode swaddle you in self-care and self-compassion. There are many factors why the strong friend often gets overlooked when it’s time to be checked on or nurtured, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t need or deserve the type of support she gives. Still, the strong friend can be her own worst enemy when it comes to receiving the care and tenderness she actually needs because she’s built a life of identifying silently suffering as a noble endeavor. And, when she finally looked around for who the adult in the room to help her she realized it was her. Terri and Dr. Dom share real-life scenarios where they were thrust into adulthood, gave insight to how they handled those situations, and reflected on what they needed in those moments. The what I wish I had knowns of life are often bittersweet because sometimes without warning you are on a new path with new responsibilities and new expectations from people. It can be…a lot. And, it doesn’t mean that these situations will stop but there are things that you can do to advocate for yourself. Do you know what will make you feel held and supported? Maybe it’s a call from a friend checking in or maybe it’s a hot bath where you can soak and ease your worries. Once you identify what you need practice asking for what you need with the strategies provided in this episode. Lady, you are your best investment so figure out what money can’t buy and build a life where you are held and held well.   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! Have you ever been accused of being stuck-up, shy, rude, or flat-out a b*tch and you were simply existing? Other people’s projections land on you and suddenly you have a reputation for being anti-social or awkward while anxiety is beating your butt and you’re doing your best not to show it. Or, maybe you’re the one pre-emptively judging someone for their demeanor, creating stories about why they are behaving they way they are without pausing and finding a neutral space from which to observe the interaction. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri show some love to the socially selective, the socially anxious, and the downright awkward among us so that we can understand these relational dynamics and hopefully offer more compassion to ourselves and others. Why? Because we’re all doing life for the first time and we do not all have the answers but we can make the effort to help each other along the way. Have you noticed that certain situations trigger fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses from you? Dr. Dom offers an actionable toolkit to help you navigate those scenarios so you can enter spaces skillfully. And, Terri offers perspective about how you can give yourself grace because it is quite possible that you are reading the room accurately and acting perfectly appropriately even if other people misunderstand your behavior. Terri and Dr. Dom share their real-world experiences and how they’ve been able to adapt to situations while also identifying when they’ve personalized a situation without enough data or proper context. Lady, doing that can cause unforced errors in an otherwise fruitful potential relationship, so do yourself a favor, head over to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop, grab your journal and spend some time with the reflection questions offered in this episode. Lady, life is all about relationships so let’s expand our capacity to be in sisterhood by increasing our confidence and our understanding of our differences. We’re shaping this world into a beautiful one full of genuine authenticity!   We’re partnered with VB Health, a doctor-formulated supplement brand focused on sexual wellness you can trust. Featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Most users report results after 1–2 weeks of consistent use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! Is there something on your heart, an idea you really want to get off of the ground, and you’re just waiting for the right time? Are you aware that there is no time like the present? Sure, maybe you’ve heard that old adage plenty of times,...

Lady! Are you in the mood for love but feeling allergic to shared finances, living together, and faking the funk of marital bliss? Don’t worry lady, this isn’t an episode for the lovestung cynics, it’s an ode to the changing nature of romantic relationships. Whether you eschew marriage altogether or you welcome long-term partnership but on your terms, we are thankfully in a time when new relationship templates are being welcomed and embraced by those who desire relationships. Previous generations often married for survival or necessity but this generation gets to partner based on shared values and goals. So, do you know what you want or need to be in a healthy relationship? Dr. Dom and Terri share some of their business as they illustrate how they defined what healthy relationships mean to them. Don’t feel left out! They’ve created the H.E.R. Relationship test, an assessment that will help you check the health of your current relationship or help you establish a framework of how you want to show up in your future relationship. They also reinforce that you don’t need to be with anyone to feel complete and if you do, you might want to talk to the lady about it. Book a consultation with Dr. Dom to discuss any issues of self-worth, attachment trauma, or self-esteem issues. Lady, the H.E.R. Relationship Test isn’t the only goodie in this episode but you’ll have to tune in to find out the other actionable items you can implement today to help you find a relationship that works best for you!   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Soaking Wet, which supports vaginal health and balance. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Life is good...like REALLY good. In fact, it’s LIT. You’re “blessed and highly favored.” To the casual observer, everything on the outside appears to be wonderful. But on the inside...you feel empty. Lady, is this you? If so, you may be experiencing...

Hey lady! Have you ever had that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach that you are lacking something? That nagging feeling can cause great discomfort because it’s often considered a dirty word in polite society. The thing is that nagging feeling, often known as envy, while uncomfortable is completely normal. Once you know how to manage this emotion turn it into fuel for creating the life you want. Dr. Dom and Terri offer a few insightful reflection questions to help you step out of any shame that may bubble up when feelings of envy arise. Lady, don’t let envy block you from getting your own shine. Let it be the match that lights the flame within you to go for yours! Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.