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I've talked a lot lately about breaking up with social media, and today I'm sharing how I developed healthy phone habits that have actually stuck for me long term, not the extreme two-day detox that always falls apart. These are conscious, sustainable changes to my scrolling habits that I've kept up with for months now!In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I stopped focusing on screen time and started paying attention to how automatically I reach for my phone👉🏻 The physical setup changes that made the biggest difference (charging outside my room, reorganizing my home screen, going low-notification)👉🏻 Why I created specific windows for social media instead of trying to quit it completely👉🏻 How I got aggressive about who I follow and what I let the algorithm show me👉🏻 How to actually break the automatic reach for your phone when you're bored, anxious, or avoiding somethingReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 112. How I’m Breaking Up With Social Media and Taking My Life BACK!! — https://youtu.be/BYB7y5Fx6g8👉🏻 You're Not Lazy! 7 Reasons You Feel Behind Even When Nothing is Wrong (& How to Fix It) — https://youtu.be/SYNUI1q8Vu0👉🏻 My Fall 2026 State of the Union | Ins, Outs & Full Seasonal Curriculum — https://youtu.be/-vIdIJF7w38GET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why the extreme detoxes never actually worked and what I focus on instead09:00 — Why I reach for my phone even when nothing is happening/the empty Instagram open-close loop16:00 — Why making your phone physically harder to access works better than relying on willpower20:00 — Why I plug my phone in outside my bedroom and what I call "phone office hours"28:00 — Why I turned off every notification except calls and texts34:00 — My "guilt-free scrolling" window and why giving yourself permission actually helps the boundary stick37:00 — Why I aggressively unfollow people, and how your following list quietly reshapes what feels normal46:00 — Why I reorganized my phone's home screen to make distraction require more effort50:00 — What I actually do instead of reaching for my phone when I'm anxious, lonely, or avoiding work57:00 — Why the goal isn't a perfect relationship with your phone, it's making sure it doesn't bookend your day

I've been spending extra time this year focusing on the tiny details of my everyday routine, and it's made a huge compounding difference! Today I'm sharing 10 micro habits (most take 5 minutes or less) that have genuinely changed how I feel about myself, my body, and how I operate day to day.In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I stopped believing in the "all or nothing" mindset👉🏻 The phone habits that changed my sleep and my mornings (plugging in outside my bedroom, phone office hours)👉🏻 My tiny self-care rituals that take less than a minute (ice rolling, eye patches, 'finishing touches')👉🏻 The planning habits that stopped me from constantly reacting to my day (task time estimation, planning the night before)Referenced in this episode:👉🏻 112. How I’m Breaking Up With Social Media and Taking My Life BACK!! — https://youtu.be/BYB7y5Fx6g8👉🏻 WEEKLY VLOG: Spend a Week on Cape Cod With Me! a little work, family time, antique haul & more — https://youtu.be/fW46fT0NPXQGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why the "all or nothing" mindset kept me stuck for years06:00 — Why plugging my phone in outside my bedroom has changed my sleep and my mornings09:00 — My "phone office hours"11:00 — Ice rolling my face every morning, and why it's the thing that actually gets me out of bed14:00 — My eye patch habit and the "vacation theory" of making everyday moments feel special17:00 — Why I switched from background TikTok noise to music while I get ready20:00 — My three finishing touches — lip gloss, perfume, and hand cream — and why I splurge on them24:00 — Why I plan my to-do list the night before instead of starting from scratch each morning27:00 — The task time-estimation habit that completely changed how I structure my day31:00 — Why I stopped keeping social media on my phone's home screen

My fall State of the Union and seasonal curriculum episode is here, and this one's a big one!! I'm breaking down what's in and out (for me) this fall, plus my full curriculum: what I'm learning, reading, and focusing on this season.In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I'm cutting fall overconsumption and not buying any new fall decor, mugs, or candles this year👉🏻 Why I'm not treating the last four months of 2026 as an all-out sprint (and why the "September is the new year" trend doesn't make sense to me)👉🏻 My fall curriculum: learning estate planning, my ceramics obsession, and why I finally stopped putting off meaningful home upgrades👉🏻 My solo trip to cooking school in Ireland (!!) and why I'm using it as my big solo date this seasonThis episode is a hybrid of my seasonal ins and outs and my personal curriculum framework, so if you want to build your own version of this, I'm walking through exactly how I structure mine.Referenced in this episode:👉🏻 How to Stop Scrolling and Start Learning (Original Personal Curriculum Framework) — https://youtu.be/H-tVUVeC4so👉🏻 My Summer 2026 State of the Union | Ins, Outs, and Making the Most of Summer (with no pressure) — https://youtu.be/VyV9bh6QOKM👉🏻 How I Stick to My Routines While Traveling for the Holidays (My Travel Menu) — https://youtu.be/MGaesmsJPugGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why I'm a true summer girl but still excited for fall this year04:00 — What a State of the Union and curriculum episode actually is, and why I stopped doing them monthly07:00 — My first out: fall overconsumption, and why I'm not buying any new fall decor, mugs, or candles11:00 — My second out: why I'm narrowing what I consume instead of gathering endless inspiration I never act on14:00 — My third out: why I'm not letting my Ireland trip wreck my routine this time17:00 — My fourth out: why I don't understand the "September is the new year" mentality/trend20:00 — My fifth out: why I stopped putting off meaningful home upgrades to save money28:00 — Why I'm dedicating this fall to learning estate planning ahead of becoming an aunt37:00 — My ceramics obsession and the specific skills I'm working to master this fall45:00 — Why my solo trip to cooking school in Ireland is my big fall solo date

Is that brand actually worth it, or are you just paying for marketing? In this episode I walk through my full buy less, buy better framework — how I evaluate brand ROI, how to actually read a material composition label, and where I personally splurge versus save on everything from denim to bedding.What I cover:👉🏻 Why a higher price tag doesn't automatically mean higher quality - and the three questions to ask before buying anything👉🏻 Brand breakdowns: Aritzia, Reformation, Levi's, AGOLDE, Quince, Everlane, and more👉🏻 Material composition 101 - natural vs. synthetic fibers, where blends are fine, and what to never put on your skin👉🏻 How to care for high quality pieces so they actually last (dry cleaning, fabric shavers, hang drying)👉🏻 The high touch vs. low touch framework and exactly where I spend money and where I don'tSubscribe to Beyond Your Budget:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 RENT VS. BUY CALCULATORhttps://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 Tools I Use:Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcHSoFi HYSA: https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2Try Classpass: https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — My buy less, buy better journey and what this episode is about08:00 — Brand ROI: are you paying for quality or marketing?11:00 — Aritzia breakdown — what's worth it and what isn't16:00 — Reformation breakdown — the nuance of fit vs. material19:00 — Levi's, AGOLDE, Citizens of Humanity, Quince, and Everlane23:00 — Material composition 101 — natural fibers: cotton, linen, wool, cashmere, silk29:00 — How to care for high quality pieces so they last30:00 — Synthetics: where they're fine and where to avoid them34:00 — Blends, ratios, and where you want 100% natural38:00 — Where I splurge vs. save and the high touch low touch framework

The Sunday scaries aren't actually about Sunday - they're about the weekend not having any real shape. In this episode I break down my three-part weekend framework: Friday as the intentional wind-down, Saturday as the day for actually living your life, and Sunday as the gentle reset that sets you up for the week. With a summer lens throughout, because a good summer weekend has a very specific quality to it.What I cover:👉🏻 Why the Sunday scaries happen even when you love your job - and what's actually causing them👉🏻 Why you don't need to earn your weekend and what happens to your productivity when you never rest👉🏻 Friday: how to close the week intentionally so open loops don't follow you into the weekend👉🏻 Saturday: why it's not an errand day and how to actually live your life on the day that's meant for it👉🏻 Sunday: the gentle reset framework that makes Monday feel less like a crisisSubscribe to Beyond Your Budget:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 RENT VS. BUY CALCULATORhttps://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 Tools I Use:Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcHSoFi HYSA: https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2Try Classpass: https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — The Sunday scaries and why they happen even when you love your job03:00 — The real reason your weekends don't feel restful05:00 — Why you don't need to earn your weekend08:00 — The 3-part framework: Friday, Saturday, Sunday09:00 — Part 1: Friday — closing the week and winding down intentionally17:00 — Part 2: Saturday — the day for actually living your life23:00 — Saturday evenings: commit to the bit or go out, no in-between27:00 — Part 3: Sunday — turning inward and resetting gently31:00 — The Sunday system and why planning ahead kills the Sunday scaries35:00 — Wrapping up: give your weekend shape without making it feel like an obligation

Do you have a life that looks completely fine on paper but doesn't actually feel good to be in? In this episode I walk through the three key pillars - your personal life, your professional life, and your relationships - and give you specific reflection questions and action items to start figuring out where the misalignment is coming from and what to do about it.What I cover:👉🏻 Why optimizing and doing more will never fix a life that isn't built on the right foundation👉🏻 The real story behind my decision to leave Chicago and move back to LA - and what it taught me about environment👉🏻 Pillar 1: Your personal life - how to audit your daily environment and figure out what's actually making your days feel heavy👉🏻 Pillar 2: Your professional life - reflection questions to get honest about whether your career is aligned with what you actually value👉🏻 Pillar 3: Your relationships - how the people around you are shaping your life more than you realizeSubscribe to Beyond Your Budget:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 RENT VS. BUY CALCULATORhttps://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 Tools I Use:Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcHSoFi HYSA: https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2Try Classpass: https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca00:00 — The feeling nobody has language for02:00 — Why productivity will never fix a misaligned foundation04:00 — The Chicago to LA story and what it taught me09:00 — How to use this episode as a life audit11:00 — Pillar 1: Your personal life19:00 — Pillar 2: Your professional life25:00 — Are you building toward something you actually want?27:00 — Action items for your professional life29:00 — Pillar 3: Your relationships35:00 — Wrapping up: paying attention is the whole thing

If you constantly feel like you’re playing catch-up during the week, it’s usually not because you’re lazy or unmotivated, it’s because you don’t have a system in place. In this episode, I walk through my full Sunday reset routine and the exact framework I use to plan my week, reduce overwhelm, and stay organized without overcomplicating things.This is a realistic, flexible system that you can adapt based on your schedule, whether you have 15 minutes or a full day. I break down how I handle life admin, plan my week, organize my tasks, and reset my environment so that I’m not making decisions in real time every day. If you want your weeks to feel calmer, more structured, and easier to move through, this is the system that made the biggest difference for me.Episodes/Videos Mentioned:Habits Episode: https://youtu.be/oc1ZCgIn0BMDiscipline Episode: https://youtu.be/ikoiOiK0cUQWeekly Money Review: https://youtu.be/FJaumNDqq-UGrocery Video: https://youtu.be/m1a3rqUKf2oSunday Reset Vlog: https://youtu.be/-aJTHTm_4_4Subscribe to Beyond Your Budget:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 RENT VS. BUY CALCULATORhttps://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 Tools I Use:Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcHSoFi HYSA: https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2Try Classpass: https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Why you always feel like you’re catching up01:30 – What actually causes weekly overwhelm03:30 – Why you need a weekly reset05:30 – Overview of my Sunday system07:00 – Part 1: Cleaning up life admin12:30 – Part 2: The brain dump (overwhelm list)17:00 – Part 3: Planning your week realistically23:00 – Part 4: Resetting your environment28:30 – Why this system actually works31:30 – Common mistakes to avoid

I spent a lot of my 20s feeling like I was figuring things out in real time. Now that I’m 30, I can clearly see the habits, systems, and perspective shifts that actually made the biggest difference in my life - and the ones that didn’t. In this episode, I’m walking through what’s changed for me across five areas: money, career, appearance, health, and relationships. If you feel like you’re in a transition phase, or things are starting to click but not fully there yet, this will give you a clearer direction.We cover:👉🏻 The financial systems that stayed consistent (no matter my income)👉🏻 Why “buy less, buy better” changed how I spend👉🏻 How I structure my workdays for focus and output👉🏻 The routines that improved my health, sleep, and energy👉🏻 The mindset shift that changed my relationships→ Weekly Money Routine:https://youtu.be/FJaumNDqq-U→ Capsule Wardrobe: https://youtu.be/qGcI0Ny_1mk→ Oura Ring Review: https://youtu.be/epFtBNTTZq4→ Work Optional Explained: https://youtu.be/0cH7vduRWREKyyahs Account: https://www.instagram.com/kyyahabdul/Subscribe to Beyond Your Budget:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 RENT VS. BUY CALCULATORhttps://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 Tools I Use:Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcHSoFi HYSA: https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Where I’m at now vs. my 20s03:00 – Why systems matter more than goals05:00 – Personal finance: what actually stayed consistent07:00 – Buying less, buying better (and high ROI spending)10:00 – Work optional mindset + long-term thinking13:30 – Career systems: weekly planning + deep work19:00 – Focus blocks, phone habits, and productivity22:30 – Appearance: skincare, body care, and style shifts30:00 – Health routines: workouts, steps, sleep, and habits36:00 – Relationships: boundaries, community, and standards