Trauma Rewired

Nervous system regulation has become part of the everyday conversation, from therapy and coaching to wellness culture and social media. But as the language spreads, it gets simplified. Regulation gets framed as staying calm all the time, activation becomes a sign that something is wrong, and "reset your nervous system" promises a quick return to some original setting. Living systems don't work that way. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof unpack what regulation actually means and why they often prefer the word modulation: the flexibility to move through activation, rest, and recovery rather than flatlining into calm. They push back on the idea that nervous system work is about suppressing emotion, explaining how building capacity is often what makes a rich emotional life possible in the first place. They also talk about why they don't hand out one-off tools online, why "drop into your body" isn't the right starting point for everyone, and why there's no single tool for anxiety when two people with the same symptoms can have completely different root drivers. Elisabeth shares how sensory mismatch and chronic hyperventilation were behind her own anxiety, and Jennifer reflects on years of re-patterning that changed her relationship with shame and her inner critic. The conversation closes with the differences between trauma informed, trauma sensitive, and trauma attuned practice, the risks of spiritual bypassing in medicine and spiritual spaces, and why nervous system work was never meant to be an individual project. Healing isn't one and done. The deeper possibility is becoming more able to move, feel, rest, and stay present in relationship with each other and the world. Start training your nervous system with Elisabeth and the team of Neuro Somatic Intelligence certified practitioners. Get a free two week trial with five live classes a week plus an on demand practice library at rewiretrial.com Learn about neurotags and how to assess the nervous system in the new NSI workshop with Elisabeth and Matt: https://neurosomatic.com/neurotag If this conversation resonated, subscribe to Trauma Rewired and share it with someone navigating this work. Chapters: 00:00 Intro 04:25 What nervous system regulation actually means 11:49 Nervous system work is not emotional suppression 18:21 Why we don't share tools online 27:19 The problem with "resetting" your nervous system 38:47 No single tool for anxiety: finding the root drivers 45:17 Trauma informed, trauma sensitive, and trauma attuned 51:24 Co-regulation and moving beyond the healing loop Featured in This Episode 📚 NSI Neurotags Workshop Why can a pattern continue even after you understand where it came from? In this new NeuroSomatic Intelligence workshop, Matt Bush and Elisabeth Kristof explore neurotags, how these networks become highly practiced, what may maintain them, and how targeted sensory input can help create new options. Designed for coaches, practitioners, and anyone interested in understanding how the nervous system learns and changes. Learn more and register: neurosomatic.com/neurotag NeuroSomatic Resources 🧠 Train your nervous system through live applied neurology and somatic practices designed to build greater capacity, adaptability, and resilience. Get two free weeks https://www.rewiretrial.com ↗️ Watch Trauma Rewired on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumarewired 🌱 WORK WITH JENNIFER Education & Neurosomatic psychedelic preparation, integration, and private mentorship illuminatedwithjennifer.com ️ Sacred Synapse with Jennifer Wallace Explore the intersection of psychedelics, neuroscience, complex trauma, and the nervous system through education grounded in preparation, integration, and harm reduction. https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23 📖 The Wayfinder Journal A guided psychedelic preparation and integration journal designed to help you explore your nervous system, intentions, experience, and the changes you want to carry forward. https://www.stan.store/illuminated Podcast Disclaimer Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. Discussions related to psychedelics are provided solely for educational and harm reduction purposes. Nothing shared on this podcast or through Sacred Synapse should be interpreted as medical advice, encouragement to use illegal substances, or a recommendation that psychedelics are appropriate for any individual. Decisions regarding psychedelic use should be made in consultation with qualified healthcare professionals and in accordance with applicable laws. We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected] All rights in our content are reserved

Co-regulation has become almost synonymous with calm: the steady voice, the safe person, the nervous system that helps another nervous system settle. But what if that definition is far too small? We are always co-regulating. The question is: what are we organizing around? In the Season 6 premiere of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof welcome back applied neurology expert Matt Bush to explore what actually happens when nervous systems interact. Eye contact can prime neural networks involved in learning. The presence of someone we trust can change the brain's response to threat without changing the threat itself. And repeated patterns between people can eventually shape the expectations of families, workplaces, communities, and cultures. Through the science of synchrony, hyperscanning, predictive processing, attachment, and social baseline theory, this conversation moves co-regulation beyond "helping someone calm down" and toward a much bigger question: If our nervous systems are continually shaping one another, what are we creating together? Key Takeaways Why co-regulation is much more than feeling calm with another person. How other people become sensory input that influences prediction, interpretation, and nervous system response. What hyperscanning research reveals about neural synchrony during human interaction. How eye contact can influence neural network activation and learning. Why co-regulation can increase activation and threat as well as connection and calm. How attachment patterns can be understood as learned predictions and responses rather than fixed identities. Why insight alone may not be enough to change a deeply practiced nervous system pattern. How social baseline theory helps explain why trusted relationships can function as resources when we encounter stress. Why self-attunement helps us remain connected to ourselves while connecting with someone else. How a practitioner's nervous system can influence the relational environment of an intervention. How repeated patterns within groups can begin shaping workplaces, communities, and cultures. Why discernment matters when choosing the people, groups, and environments that influence your nervous system. The nervous system is continually learning in relationship. And because those patterns can change, our relationships can become places where new predictions, new responses, and new possibilities are built. The work we do with our own nervous system does not stop with us. It changes how we participate with other people and what we contribute to the environments we create together. Featured in This Episode 📚 NSI Neurotags Workshop Why can a pattern continue even after you understand where it came from? In this new NeuroSomatic Intelligence workshop, Matt Bush and Elisabeth Kristof explore neurotags, how these networks become highly practiced, what may maintain them, and how targeted sensory input can help create new options. Designed for coaches, practitioners, and anyone interested in understanding how the nervous system learns and changes. Learn more and register: neurosomatic.com/neurotag NeuroSomatic Resources 🧠 Train your nervous system through live applied neurology and somatic practices designed to build greater capacity, adaptability, and resilience. Get two free weeks https://www.rewiretrial.com ↗️ Watch Trauma Rewired on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumarewired 🌱 WORK WITH JENNIFER Neurosomatic psychedelic preparation, integration, and private mentorship illuminatedwithjennifer.com 🎙️ Sacred Synapse with Jennifer Wallace Explore the intersection of psychedelics, neuroscience, complex trauma, and the nervous system through education grounded in preparation, integration, and harm reduction. https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23 📖 The Wayfinder Journal A guided psychedelic preparation and integration journal designed to help you explore your nervous system, intentions, experience, and the changes you want to carry forward. https://www.stan.store/illuminated Podcast Disclaimer Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. Discussions related to psychedelics are provided solely for educational and harm reduction purposes. Nothing shared on this podcast or through Sacred Synapse should be interpreted as medical advice, encouragement to use illegal substances, or a recommendation that psychedelics are appropriate for any individual. Decisions regarding psychedelic use should be made in consultation with qualified healthcare professionals and in accordance with applicable laws. We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected] All rights in our content are reserved

Post-traumatic growth is often described as finding meaning after adversity, but insight alone does not reorganize a nervous system that is still predicting threat. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof are joined by Matt Bush, lead educator for Neurosomatic Intelligence, to explore post-traumatic growth through the lens of neuroplasticity, sensory processing, relational healing and nervous system reorganization. Together they examine why trauma can persist long after an experience has ended, how protective patterns can become intertwined with identity and why repeatedly revisiting trauma without changing the underlying nervous system patterns may keep us caught in cycles of healing without creating lasting change. They also explore the deeply relational nature of post-traumatic growth. Trauma can disrupt trust, belonging and our capacity to co-regulate, while safe connection provides powerful biological signals that help regulate stress and support nervous system repair. From oxytocin and social synchronization to community, shared rituals and relational safety, this conversation looks at why humans evolved to endure stress together rather than alone. Jennifer, Elisabeth and Matt break down what neuroplasticity actually means, how repeated sensory and emotional experiences shape neural pathways and why safety and repetition matter when we are building new patterns. They also explore peak somatic experiences and psychedelics as potential openings into greater flexibility while emphasizing that an opening is not the same as integration. Lasting change requires us to live and practice new patterns after the insight or experience has occurred. Post-traumatic growth is not about forcing gratitude, forgiveness or meaning onto painful experiences. It is about creating the conditions that allow the brain and body to reorganize around greater safety, connection, possibility and choice. In This Episode We Discuss • What post-traumatic growth actually means and why it is more than a mindset shift • How trauma shapes the brain's predictions of safety, threat and identity • Why forcing forgiveness, gratitude or meaning too soon can lead to suppression and bypassing • The role of relational healing, co-regulation and belonging in post-traumatic growth • How oxytocin and social connection help regulate the human stress response • Why connection itself can feel threatening after trauma • How sensory inputs influence nervous system regulation and threat prediction • Why repeatedly revisiting trauma does not necessarily create healing • How healing itself can become an identity that keeps us caught in a cycle of continually searching for the next breakthrough • What neuroplasticity actually means and how repetition strengthens new neural pathways • Why old protective patterns can reappear without erasing the growth that has already occurred • Peak somatic experiences, psychedelics and the difference between an opening and integration • How sleep, digestion, pain, mood and other nervous system outputs can help us recognize whether change is actually occurring • Why humans may have an intrinsic orientation toward growth while still requiring the right conditions for that growth to emerge Resources 🧠 Featured in This Episode NSI Foundations Bundle Explore the foundations of applied neurology and somatics and learn how the brain and body develop patterns of protection, how to safely work with the nervous system and how to begin creating embodied change. The bundle includes three self-paced, on-demand workshops designed for coaches, therapists and practitioners who want to begin integrating nervous system-informed tools into their work. Lifetime access is $37. neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations 🎯 Start Here FREE 2-week nervous system training: rewiretrial.com Learn more about Neurosomatic Intelligence Coaching: Neurosomatic Intelligence 📺 Watch More Trauma Rewired Episodes YouTube Channel: Trauma Rewired on YouTube 🧠 Learn more about Jennifer's work illuminatedwithjennifer.com Sacred Synapse with Jennifer Wallace Learn more about psychedelic neuroscience, applied neurology and Neurosomatic Intelligence through educational, harm reduction content. Sacred Synapse on YouTube 📓 The Wayfinder Journal A guided journal designed to help you track nervous system patterns, deepen self-awareness and support psychedelic preparation and integration. The Wayfinder Journal 🤝 Connect with Us Instagram: Trauma Rewired on Instagram Facebook Group: Trauma Rewired Facebook Group 🌱 Exclusive Offer FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from AG1: AG1 Trauma Rewired Offer Disclaimer Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuroscience and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neurosomatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. BrainBased.com and RewireTrial.com are membership sites for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. They are not substitutes for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. Jennifer Wallace is also the founder of Sacred Synapse, an educational platform exploring psychedelic neuroscience, applied neurology, Neurosomatic Intelligence, and nervous system-informed psychedelic preparation and integration. Any discussion of psychedelics is provided for educational and harm reduction purposes only. Sacred Synapse does not encourage or promote illegal substance use. Psychedelic experiences carry significant psychological and physiological risks and are not appropriate for every nervous system. Always consult qualified medical professionals and follow the laws applicable where you live before making decisions related to psychedelic use. Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others. If you have any concerns regarding our content, please contact us at [email protected]. All rights in our content are reserved.

Trauma doesn't just shape your memories. It changes how your brain predicts, interprets, and responds to the world. In this episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth sit down with clinical neuroscientist Dr. Mbemba Jabbi to explore the biology of complex trauma through the lens of neurogenetics, affective neuroscience, inflammation, and neuroplasticity. Together they unpack how early adversity reshapes emotional brain networks, why survival adaptations become deeply encoded, and what current neuroscience reveals about the connection between trauma, chronic disease, and healing. From the anterior insula and amygdala to inflammatory biomarkers like C-reactive protein, this conversation bridges cutting-edge neuroscience with practical understanding for survivors and practitioners alike. Most importantly, it offers hope: the brain remains plastic throughout life, and healing is possible. In This Episode Why trauma is an ongoing conversation between the brain, body, and environment—not simply a past event. How the brain's emotional networks continuously evaluate safety through sensory input. The role of the anterior insula, anterior cingulate cortex, and amygdala in emotional regulation and threat detection. Why many trauma responses are adaptive suppressions rather than deficits. How survival patterns formed during childhood often repeat throughout adulthood. The relationship between chronic trauma, inflammation, and long-term physical health. What C-reactive protein may reveal about the biological impact of childhood trauma. Why early childhood sexual trauma produces distinct biological effects compared with other forms of adversity. How genetics and environment interact to shape emotional health without determining destiny. Why neuroplasticity gives us the capacity to build new patterns throughout life. How nervous system training, supportive relationships, and therapeutic interventions help create lasting change. Why emotions are not separate from the body—they are deeply integrated with every system involved in survival and wellbeing. Featured in This Episode 🧠 Start your FREE two-week Rewire Trial Learn the same neurosomatic tools discussed throughout the podcast and begin training your nervous system with live classes, expert guidance, and an extensive on-demand library. https://www.rewiretrial.com RESOURCES ✨ Are you ready to become the woman who can carry the vision? Discover nervous system education, preparation, integration, and resources to support your journey at illuminatedwithjennifer.com. 🌿 Sacred Synapse Explore Jennifer's educational videos on psychedelic neuroscience, preparation, integration, and harm reduction. https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23 📖 The Wayfinder Journal A guided psychedelic preparation and integration journal designed to help you embody insight and create lasting change. https://stan.store/illuminated Connect with Us 🌐 Website https://www.traumarewired.com 📸 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/trauma.rewired 👥 Facebook Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846 Exclusive Offer 🥬 Receive a FREE bottle of AG1 with your subscription. https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired Podcast Disclaimer Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. Discussions related to psychedelics are provided solely for educational and harm reduction purposes. Nothing shared on this podcast or through Sacred Synapse should be interpreted as medical advice, encouragement to use illegal substances, or a recommendation that psychedelics are appropriate for any individual. Decisionsregarding psychedelic use should be made in consultation with qualified healthcare professionals and in accordance with applicable laws. Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. Discussions related to psychedelics are provided solely for educational and harm reduction purposes. Nothing shared on this podcast or through Sacred Synapse should be interpreted as medical advice, encouragement to use illegal substances, or a recommendation that psychedelics are appropriate for any individual. Decisions regarding psychedelic use should be made in consultation with qualified healthcare professionals and in accordance with applicable laws. We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected] All rights in our content are reserved

Episode Summary Why do you know you're safe logically, but your body still reacts as though you're in danger? Emotional regulation isn't about staying calm, avoiding difficult emotions, or suppressing how you feel. It's about your brain and nervous system working together to accurately interpret what's happening inside and around you so you can respond with flexibility instead of survival. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof are joined by NSI educator Matt Bush to explore the neuroscience of emotional regulation through the lens of brain integration, interoception, sensory processing, and neuroplasticity. Together they unpack why trauma disrupts communication between key brain networks, how chronic stress creates fragmented emotional processing, and why many people remain stuck in cycles of overwhelm, shutdown, perfectionism, dissociation, binge eating, emotional flooding, or emotional numbness despite years of personal development or therapy. The conversation also explores why emotional regulation is a trainable neurological skill, how simple nervous system practices improve brain integration, why sensory mismatch contributes to chronic stress, and how properly preparing the nervous system creates safer, more effective emotional processing—including during psychedelic experiences. If you've ever wondered why insight alone doesn't create lasting change, why your emotions sometimes feel bigger than the situation, or why your body seems to react before your mind can catch up, this episode offers a neuroscience-based roadmap toward regulation, resilience, and post-traumatic growth. In This Episode We Discuss What emotional regulation actually is—and what it is not Why emotional regulation depends on brain integration The roles of the insula, anterior cingulate cortex, cerebellum, and prefrontal cortex How trauma disrupts communication between brain networks Why chronic stress creates fragmented emotional processing The relationship between interoception, proprioception, and emotional regulation Sensory mismatch and its hidden impact on nervous system health Emotional flooding, shutdown, perfectionism, binge eating, and dissociation Why "fake it until you make it" comes with a physiological cost The neuroscience behind predictive coding and emotional interpretation Why emotions are physiological—not simply psychological How movement, vocalization, and nervous system regulation support emotional processing Brain-body integration and the limits of insight alone Emotional regulation during psychedelic and peak somatic experiences Building nervous system capacity through daily regulation practices Practical neuroscience tools that support resilience and post-traumatic growth Featured in This Episode NSI Foundations Bundle Learn the foundational neuroscience and practical nervous system tools behind everything taught inside the NeuroSomatic Intelligence Certification. https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations Start Here FREE 2-Week Rewire Trial https://www.rewiretrial.com Learn More About NeuroSomatic Intelligence https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com Watch More Trauma Rewired Episodes YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRewired Are you ready to become the woman who can carry the vision? Discover nervous system education, preparation, integration, and resources to support your journey at https://illuminatedwithjennifer.com Sacred Synapse with Jennifer Wallace Learn more about psychedelic neuroscience, applied neurology, Neurosomatic Intelligence, and nervous system-informed psychedelic preparation and integration through educational, harm reduction content. https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23 The Wayfinder Journal A guided journal designed to help you track nervous system patterns, deepen self-awareness, and support psychedelic preparation and integration. https://stan.store/illuminated Connect With Us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trauma.rewired Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846 Exclusive Offer FREE 1-Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from AG1 https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired Disclaimer Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuroscience and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neurosomatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. BrainBased.com and RewireTrial.com are membership sites for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. They are not substitutes for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. Jennifer Wallace is also the founder of Sacred Synapse, an educational platform exploring psychedelic neuroscience, applied neurology, Neurosomatic Intelligence, and nervous system-informed psychedelic preparation and integration. Any discussion of psychedelics is provided for educational and harm reduction purposes only. Sacred Synapse does not encourage or promote illegal substance use. Psychedelic experiences carry significant psychological and physiological risks and are not appropriate for every nervous system. Always consult qualified medical professionals and follow the laws applicable where you live before making decisions related to psychedelic use. Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others. If you have any concerns regarding our content, please contact us at [email protected]. All rights in our content are reserved.

Why do so many trauma survivors say "yes" when every part of their body is saying "no"? In this deeply compassionate episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof are joined by somatic educator Luis Mojica to explore one of the least understood trauma adaptations: sexual fawning. While many people recognize fawning as people-pleasing, sexual fawning often remains hidden beneath shame, confusion, and self-blame. Together, they unpack how the nervous system can mistake compliance for safety, why intimacy can become intertwined with survival, and how early developmental experiences shape adult relationships. You'll learn why fawning is not a personality trait but an intelligent physiological adaptation, how developmental trauma creates "over-couplings" between fear and pleasure, and why healing begins not with forcing different behaviors, but by learning to recognize the body's earliest protective signals. This conversation also explores the relationship between attachment wounds, body boundaries, shame, freeze responses, compassion, and nervous system capacity—offering a new framework for understanding sexuality through the lens of neuroscience, somatics, and post-traumatic growth. Whether you've experienced childhood trauma, struggle to maintain boundaries, or simply want a deeper understanding of how survival responses influence intimacy, this episode offers practical insights and profound hope for healing. In This Episode What the fawn response actually is—and why it's far more than people-pleasing The difference between fawning and sexual fawning How developmental trauma couples fear, shame, and arousal Why sexual fawning often occurs inside loving, committed relationships The physiology behind compliance, dissociation, and body boundaries How freeze and fawn work together during traumatic experiences Why shame is a physiological state—not a character flaw Understanding over-coupling and how the nervous system learns survival The difference between present danger and nervous system triggers How to recognize the first body signals before a fawn response occurs Why compassion can feel threatening to a traumatized nervous system The relationship between chronic people-pleasing, chronic illness, and nervous system capacity Practical somatic practices for interrupting the fawn response and rebuilding body trust Start Here If today's conversation resonated with you, these resources are a powerful next step: 🧠 The Nervous System Rewire Mini Course Learn the foundational practices for regulating your nervous system and creating lasting change. https://rewirecourse.com 🧠 Try Brain-Based Membership Free for Two Weeks Join Jennifer and Elisabeth for live nervous system training. https://rewiretrial.com 🧠 NSI Foundations Begin understanding how applied neurology and Neurosomatic Intelligence create lasting nervous system change. https://www.rewiretrial.com Watch More Trauma Rewired Episodes If this conversation resonated, continue exploring these related episodes: Understanding the Fawn Response Why Boundaries Feel Like Rejection After Trauma From Shame to Self-Expression: Healing Body Boundaries After Trauma Emotional Flashbacks and Complex Trauma Why Being Yourself Can Feel Dangerous After Trauma The Freeze Response Explained Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn: Understanding Survival States Are you ready to become the woman who can carry the vision? Discover nervous system education, preparation, integration, and resources to support your journey at illuminatedwithjennifer.com. If you're interested in the intersection of neuroscience, psychedelics, interoception, and nervous system preparation, explore Jennifer's educational YouTube channel: Sacred Synapse https://www.youtube.com/@SacredSynapse New videos every week exploring applied neurology, neuroplasticity, trauma physiology, and psychedelic harm reduction. The Wayfinder Journal Healing doesn't happen through insight alone. The Wayfinder Journal was designed to help you develop greater self-awareness, nervous system attunement, and embodied reflection between sessions and episodes. Explore the journal here: https://stan.store/traumarewired Exclusive Offer 🥬 Receive a FREE bottle of AG1 with your subscription. https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired Podcast Disclaimer Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. Discussions related to psychedelics are provided solely for educational and harm reduction purposes. Nothing shared on this podcast or through Sacred Synapse should be interpreted as medical advice, encouragement to use illegal substances, or a recommendation that psychedelics are appropriate for any individual. Decisionsregarding psychedelic use should be made in consultation with qualified healthcare professionals and in accordance with applicable laws. Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. Discussions related to psychedelics are provided solely for educational and harm reduction purposes. Nothing shared on this podcast or through Sacred Synapse should be interpreted as medical advice, encouragement to use illegal substances, or a recommendation that psychedelics are appropriate for any individual. Decisions regarding psychedelic use should be made in consultation with qualified healthcare professionals and in accordance with applicable laws. We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected] All rights in our content are reserved

What if authenticity isn't a personality trait—but a sign of nervous system capacity? Many people believe they struggle to be themselves because they lack confidence, boundaries, or self-awareness. But after trauma, authenticity can feel physiologically dangerous. When the nervous system has learned that honesty risks rejection, conflict, or abandonment, masking, performing, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional editing become intelligent survival strategies. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore why authenticity is one of the clearest markers of post-traumatic growth. They unpack the neuroscience behind masking, the relationship between performance and attachment, why "little lies" often emerge from protection rather than manipulation, and how increasing nervous system capacity allows authentic self-expression without collapse or self-abandonment. The conversation also explores how psychedelic experiences often create temporary feelings of authenticity and forgiveness—but why those insights only become lasting change through preparation, regulation, and integration. Jennifer also shares a deeply personal reflection on self-forgiveness, relational repair, and how nervous system regulation creates the capacity to tell the truth, remain connected, and experience genuine freedom. In This Episode, We Discuss Why authenticity is a marker of nervous system health—not personality. How complex trauma teaches the body that honesty can threaten attachment. The neuroscience behind masking, performance, and emotional editing. Why perfectionism is a survival strategy rather than a character trait. The relationship between authenticity and post-traumatic growth. How chronic self-suppression increases allostatic load and nervous system stress. Why "little lies" often function as protective nervous system adaptations. The difference between visibility and authentic expression. Oversharing versus authentic vulnerability. How nervous system capacity changes relationships. Why psychedelic insight alone does not create lasting transformation. The role of preparation and integration after psychedelic experiences. Self-forgiveness as a nervous system practice rather than a mindset. Why shame blocks neuroplasticity and learning. Attunement, emotional processing, and authentic change. Forgiveness without bypassing accountability. Breaking intergenerational trauma patterns through regulation and capacity building. Featured in This Episode The Nervous System Rewire Course Learn the foundational practices that help you regulate your nervous system, build self-attunement, and increase capacity through experiential exercises. https://rewirecourse.com Start Here The Rewire Trial Experience the Brain-Based Membership with a two-week trial. https://rewiretrial.com NSI Foundations Bundle Learn the fundamentals of Neurosomatic Intelligence. https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/workshops/ Capacity Gap Workshop Understand why capacity—not willpower—is the missing link in lasting nervous system change. https://rewirecapacity.com Watch More Trauma Rewired Episodes Watch full video episodes and subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@traumarewired Are you ready to become the woman who can carry the vision? Discover nervous system education, preparation, integration, and resources to support your journey at illuminatedwithjennifer.com. Sacred Synapse with Jennifer Wallace For deeper education on psychedelic neuroscience, nervous system preparation, integration, and harm reduction, visit Sacred Synapse. https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse The Wayfinder Journal Jennifer's guided journal for nervous system awareness, reflection, and post-traumatic growth. https://stan.store/illuminated Exclusive Offer Support your nervous system with AG1 and receive Trauma Rewired's exclusive partner offer. https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired Disclaimer The Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological, or other professional advice or services. The information shared by Jennifer Wallace, Elisabeth Kristof, and their guests is for educational purposes only and should not be used as a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or healthcare advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you have heard on this podcast. If listening to this podcast brings up significant distress, please pause the episode and seek support from a qualified mental health professional. If you are in crisis, contact your local emergency services immediately. In the United States and Canada, you can also contact or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. While every effort is made to ensure the accuracy of the information presented, neuroscience and trauma research continue to evolve. Trauma Rewired makes no guarantees regarding the completeness, reliability, or ongoing accuracy of the information shared. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace, Elisabeth Kristof, BrainBased, or their affiliates. Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof are educators and practitioners. Unless explicitly stated, they are not acting as licensed medical or mental health providers within the context of this podcast. BrainBased.com, RewireTrial.com, and associated educational programs are intended for educational purposes only and are not a substitute for individualized medical or mental healthcare. Discussions involving psychedelics are presented exclusively for educational and harm reduction purposes. Trauma Rewired does not encourage or promote illegal activity or the unsupervised use of psychedelic substances. Individuals should understand and comply with the laws applicable in their jurisdiction and consult qualified healthcare professionals before making decisions related to psychedelic therapies. Any examples or stories shared on this podcast are for educational illustration. Names and identifying details may be changed to protect privacy. For questions regarding podcast content, please contact: [email protected] © Trauma Rewired. All rights reserved.

The deepest wound in complex trauma is not emotional intensity. It is the learned loss of connection to yourself. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof open the next chapter of the CPT series by starting where the roots go deepest: self-abandonment. This is the pattern they chose to name first—and intentionally so—because when the nervous system learns that staying connected to the self is unsafe, nearly every other complex trauma response grows from that adaptation. Self-abandonment is not a personality flaw or a lack of self-awareness. It is a body-based survival strategy. From a neurosomatic perspective, it is a state-dependent loss of interoceptive access—a patterned inhibition of internal signals that the nervous system learned in order to stay attached, stay safe, and maintain stability in the relational environment. And like every other output explored in this series, it made complete sense at the time it formed. The conversation moves through the neuroscience of dissociation and how it is inseparable from self-abandonment, the brain regions involved, and what their altered activity actually looks like in everyday life. It explores the fawn response—including its lesser-discussed dimension of sexual fawning—and the specific pathways through which emotional neglect and parentification set the stage for chronic self-erasure. Jennifer and Elisabeth also trace how masking—whether in the context of neurodivergence, complex trauma, or systemic oppression—is another expression of the same root pattern: authenticity does not feel safe, so the self gets hidden. But this episode does not stop at the wound. Both hosts share what the growth edge of this pattern has actually looked like for them—what building interoceptive capacity from the ground up felt like in practice—and how self-attunement, the skill of staying present with internal experience without becoming overwhelmed by it, gradually became accessible rather than threatening. This is not a quick-fix episode. It is an honest, grounded map of one of the most pervasive and least visible patterns in complex trauma—and a clear-eyed account of what actually changes it. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why self abandonment is a survival adaptation rooted in the nervous system, not a character flaw How interoceptive access becomes inhibited under chronic relational threat, and what that feels like day to day The neuroscience of dissociation: which brain regions are involved and how their altered activity drives functional disconnection Why emotional neglect, even without overt harm, sets the stage for chronic self erasure How parentification creates a nervous system template of self abandonment that persists long into adulthood What fawn response is, how it operates neurologically, and why sexual fawning is a real and undernamed expression of it How masking across contexts including neurodivergence, complex trauma, and racial and systemic oppression overlaps with and compounds self abandonment What self attunement actually is as a nervous system skill and how it is different from insight or emotional processing alone Why healing is capacity-based rather than cathartic, and what that means for pacing How both hosts have rebuilt interoceptive access over time and what that process has opened up for them Chapters 0:00 - The Deepest Wound in Complex Trauma Is Not Emotional Intensity 0:38 - Welcome: Who This Episode Is For 1:27 - Introducing the CPT Series and Why We Start With Self Abandonment 2:53 - Defining Self Abandonment as a Nervous System Output 4:21 - Pete Walker, Fawn Responses, and How the Child Learns to Attune Outward 4:47 - The Neuro Somatic View: Interoceptive Access Under Chronic Threat 6:08 - Embodiment as the Opposite of Self Abandonment 6:35 - Collective and Intergenerational Dimensions of Self Abandonment 7:55 - What Self Abandonment Looks Like in Real Life: A Case Study 9:21 - Dissociation: What It Actually Is and Why It Is Inseparable From Self Abandonment 10:42 - Brain Science: The Insula, Hippocampus, Amygdala, and Thalamus 14:35 - The Fawn Response and Sexual Fawning 18:17 - Self Attunement: The Opposite of Self Abandonment 21:06 - Rebuilding Interoception: Starting Small 27:19 - Emotional Neglect as the Root of Self Abandonment 29:13 - Parentification and the Template of Self Erasure 31:21 - Masking: Neurodivergence, Systemic Oppression, and Complex Trauma 36:19 - What Growth Has Actually Looked Like for Jennifer and Elisabeth 40:20 - Stress Bucket Dysmorphia and Learning Your Real Capacity Resources and Links NSI Foundations Bundle for coaches and practitioners: neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations Two week Rewire Trial of guided neuro somatic training: rewiretrial.com Learn more about Jennifer's work at her YouTube channel: Sacred Synapse https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23 Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at [email protected] All rights in our content are reserved