BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

This week’s episode comes straight from the DMs: “Can you please make a video about your partner sleeping soundly while you are crying next to him?” It’s a message Margarita gets often, and one she lived herself in her twenties. The internet’s answer is usually just “leave him,” but Margarita argues that skips the most important part: understanding what is actually happening. In this episode, she breaks down the pursue-withdraw dynamic, why men and women experience conflict so differently, and how anxious and avoidant partners are both trying to feel safe in opposite ways. She gets candid about emotional sovereignty, rumination, and handing your emotional weather to someone else. She also explains how to tell a healthy break from stonewalling, emotional overwhelm from emotional punishment, and the one simple test that shows whether it really is time to leave him.In this episode: 1. Three separate reasons this could be happening and they are all different 2. The pursue withdraw dynamic and why it is so painful 3. Anxious versus avoidant attachment and why these two always find each other 4. Sleep does not prove emotional indifference 5. Why women ruminate and men shut down during conflict 6. Emotional invalidation versus nervous system overload 7. Stonewalling versus taking a healthy break 8. Why women carry the emotional labour of the whole relationship 9. Contempt and emotional punishment disguised as withdrawal 10. What the next day actually tells you about everythingWrite to Dear Margarita and read Unfiltered with MargaritaMentioned in this episode:Unbothered by Margarita NazarenkoBeing Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xxSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join me in The Final Round of Unbothered WomanReceive emails from meYou already know what you need to do. You are just scared of what it is going to cost you.Margarita is back from her book tour in America, freshly moved into a half renovated house with two small children, and she has things to say.In this episode she shares the 10 mindset shifts that came up for her on the trip, the permissions she had to stop waiting for, and why the life you want is already inside you and has been the whole time.In this episode:1. You are probably not confused you are just scared of the consequences2. Stop collecting advice you already have the answer3. Distance tells you things proximity cannot4. Your next life requires disappointing someone from your current one5. Stop waiting to feel ready confidence only comes after evidence6. When you transform the old identity will fight back hard7. Stop making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions8. Your life changes when you stop negotiating with what you know9. There is no future version of you coming to save you10. Give yourself until the end of the year to prove you can do hard thingsIf you know what you need to do but cannot bring yourself to do it, if you keep asking everyone else what you should do with your life, or if you are waiting to feel ready before you start, this one is for you.This is your sign. Lock in.Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms.Love you lots like jelly tots xxSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Check out Hinge Get my Book: Unbothered The Art of Letting Go to Find YourselfJoin the Unbothered WomanWatch Detach My 3 Day IntensiveIf there is one episode you listen to this year on anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, and why you can never fully relax in a relationship, let it be this one.Your gut is not a wise little oracle. It is a nervous system shaped by everything that has ever happened to you. And if most of your experiences with love have involved pain, your gut has been calibrated to a setting that does not serve you when you are finally safe.In this episode Margarita breaks down the real difference between anxiety and intuition, why trusting your gut is damaging advice for anxiously attached women, and what to do in the moment when you genuinely cannot tell which one is speaking.In this episode:Why anxiety and intuition feel exactly the same from the insideWhy trusting your gut is dangerous advice for anxious womenHow your nervous system scans for danger even when you are safeWhy reassurance is a leaky bucket that will never fillThe three question framework to tell anxiety from intuitionWhat real intuition actually feels like vs anxious spiralingWhat hyper independent women do when they finally feel something realHow to regulate before you react and ruin something goodWhen to stay and when the signal is actually realWhat changes when you finally learn to tell the differenceIf you can never fully relax no matter how much he shows up, if you need certainty just to feel okay, or if you are exhausted by your own spiral and just want it to stop, this one is for you.Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms.Love you lots like jelly tots xxSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.