The Mark Groves Podcast

In this episode, I explore how our relationship with technology, and specifically our smartphones, has quietly become one of the greatest threats to our most sacred relationship: the one we have with ourselves. Devotion isn't just a spiritual concept, it's a choice we make every single day, and every time we reach for our phone we are either honoring or abandoning that relationship. We dig into the neuroscience of why social media is designed to hijack your attention, why even having your phone in the room is costing you more than you think, and the simple but powerful practices that can help you reclaim your focus, hear your own inner voice, and stop outsourcing your peace to a screen. Because focus is the competitive advantage of the future, and the life you want is waiting on the other side of your attention. Resources: Need a digital detox? We've put together a free, science-backed protocol with everything you need to reclaim your focus, sleep, and attention — download it here. Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book —Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove Have A Question?—Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! This episode is sponsored by: Cozy Earth: Use code CHANGE for 20% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com

In this episode I speak directly to anyone stuck in a manipulative or emotionally abusive relationship and wondering why leaving feels so impossible. I unpack how empathy, hope, and old attachment wounds can keep you bonded to chaos, and why compassion without boundaries turns into self-abandonment. This episode offers a clear, empowering truth: the moment you recognize where you’re still consenting to the dynamic, you regain the power to choose differently. If you’ve been doubting yourself, questioning your reality, or waiting for someone else to change, this is your invitation to reclaim your agency and become the safety you’ve been searching for. Resources: —Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book —Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/itsmarkgroves —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove Have A Question? —Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode Mark sits down with acclaimed therapist and author of It Didn’t Start With You, Mark Wolynn, to unpack the shocking science and lived reality of inherited trauma. They dive into research showing how war and partner violence can leave epigenetic “fingerprints” across generations, and why so many high-functioning people still wake up with panic, loneliness, or a sense of not being safe, often without knowing why. Learn the powerful “worst fear” question that helps pinpoint whether you’re dealing with attachment trauma or inherited family trauma. This conversation offers a radically clear map for where the pain actually starts and how to finally resolve it. Mark Wolynn (accent on second syllable) is the director of the Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco. He is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. His book It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology, and has been translated into 17 languages. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com, Elephant Journal and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in The New Yorker. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwolynn Website: https://markwolynn.com/ Workbook: https://amzn.to/468KGZJ —Have a question For Mark to answer on the podcast?https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast —Have a question for Mark and want an immediate answer? Mark's Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com —How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? https://markgroves.com/connectthedots - Subscribe to Mark’s Substack to receive his weekly reflections and insights straight from his heart to your inbox. https://markgroves.substack.com/ —Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! —This episode is sponsored by: Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode I take a hard look at our addiction to speed, noise, and constant consumption—and how it’s quietly pulling us out of our bodies, our relationships, and our lives. I unpack why silence feels so uncomfortable, how technology and blue light are reshaping our nervous systems, and why choosing slowness, reading, and presence has become a radical act. This is an invitation to stop outsourcing your awareness, reclaim your attention, and build a conscious relationship with technology that actually supports your humanity. If you’ve been feeling overstimulated, disconnected, or restless, this episode will call you back to what’s real, grounded, and life-giving. Resources: — Get the recording for my Reclaim Your Attention Webinar: www.markgroves.com/reclaim —Get 10% off a Daylight Computer https://buy.daylightcomputer.com/HARMONY — Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book —Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove Have A Question? —Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! This episode is sponsored by: Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode I share a raw, unexpected series of moments—that all converge on one unavoidable truth: life is fragile, and integrity can’t wait. I explore how incongruence slowly kills our aliveness, how the smallest compromises quietly accumulate, and why waiting for the “right time” is the most dangerous lie we tell ourselves. This is a direct, unfiltered invitation to stop negotiating with your future self, to reclaim your attention from the distractions anesthetizing your potential, and to live in alignment with what you already know is true. Because every choice you make is either life-affirming or life-draining, and one day, you won’t have the luxury of pretending otherwise. Sign up for my workshop: www.createthelove.com/reclaim Resources: —Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book —Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove Have A Question? —Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode I share a revelation about our relationship with technology that completely reframes why your phone feels so overwhelming—and it has nothing to do with willpower or “addiction.” I unpack the unseen biological stress of living in constant social evaluation by algorithms, why simply having a phone on the table erodes presence and empathy, and how for the first time in human history a version of you exists at social risk 24/7. You'll learn what smartphones are really doing to our relationships — and why your nervous system feels it immediately…This episode will radically change how you understand your urge to check your phone, help you release shame, and empower you to create boundaries so technology serves your life instead of extracting from it. Resources: —Sign up for my Reclaim Your Attention Workshop here: https://go.markgroves.com/optin-page —How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? https://markgroves.com/connectthedots -Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book —Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove Have A Question? —Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! This episode is sponsored by: Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 25% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode Mark sits down with Anjan Katta, the creator of the Daylight Computer, for a conversation that will completely shift how you see your relationship with technology. Together they unpack the hidden ways screens hijack your biology, through flicker rates, blue light, dopamine loops, and the silent extraction of your attention—and why most people don’t realize they’re being physiologically and psychologically overwhelmed until they hit burnout. Anjan shares the wild six-year journey of reinventing screen technology to honor the human nervous system, and Mark explores why reclaiming your attention has become a modern spiritual rebellion. This episode is a wake-up call about the cost of “processed light,” the rise of the analog revolution, and how healthier tech design could return sovereignty, presence, and actual choice back to our lives. Links: —Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daylightco/ —Website: https://daylightcomputer.com/ This episode is sponsored by: Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN —Have a question For Mark to answer on the podcast?https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast —Have a question for Mark and want an immediate answer? Mark's Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com —How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? https://markgroves.com/connectthedots - Subscribe to Mark’s Substack to receive his weekly reflections and insights straight from his heart to your inbox. https://markgroves.substack.com/ —Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode Mark welcomes relationship expert Thais Gibson to break down the six stages of relationships—from Dating and Honeymoon to Power Struggle, Rhythm, Devotion, and the Everlasting stage—and the exact rites of passage required to move through each. Together they expose why most couples stall (and split) in the power struggle, how to turn conflict into intimacy through vulnerability, needs-based communication, and trait integration, and why secure attachment isn’t a mystery—it’s a set of repeatable skills. You’ll learn how anxious partners can stop chasing, how avoidant partners can stop flaw-finding, and how both can build the habits that create a lasting “us.” If you’re ready to trade roller-coaster love for a relationship that’s rooted, resilient, and deeply satisfying, this conversation is your roadmap. Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, podcast host, Ph.D. recipient, and a leading expert in personal development and attachment trauma. With over 13 certifications in modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hypnosis, and Somatic Experiencing, she spent nearly a decade in a high-demand client practice where a growing waitlist highlighted the need for more accessible tools for emotional healing. This inspired her to create The Personal Development School (“PDS”), which has since expanded into a global community of over 55,000 members across 145+ countries, supported by her extensive clinical experience and research. —Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool —Website: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ —This episode is sponsored by: Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com Avocado Green Mattress: www.avocadogreenmattress.com —Have a question For Mark to answer on the podcast?https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast —Have a question for Mark and want an immediate answer? Mark's Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com —How to Stop Chasing Unavailable People: https://markgroves.com/stopchasing - Subscribe to Mark’s Substack to receive his weekly reflections and insights straight from his heart to your inbox. https://markgroves.substack.com/ —Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands