Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

A listener had a question: how do I help my six year old son be less afraid of bears at night when bears have been invading our neighbors’ houses? At first this seems like a unique question, but when we step back from the bears, a more common question (and answer) bubbles up: How do we help our children problem solve when dealing with something scary AND possible? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A mom who has been successfully using Lynn’s skills with her anxious daughter wants to know if she can use the same externalizing and naming approach with other big emotions and reactions, like frustration or rejection. The answer is YES and Lynn will walk us through it. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do your kids ask for help? How do you treat those that are helping you? We all find ourselves in the positions of both needing and offering help, often in times of heightened emotion. In this episode, Lynn (ironically without any help) lays out the ways we can teach our kids to ask and receive help, and how to best offer our assistance to develop confidence rather than dependence. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Reassurance seeking is one of the most common anxiety behaviors between children and parents (and children and teachers…and between adults, too!) Offering reassurance is a short term fix but sustains the anxiety loop. This episode’s question comes from a mom who knows this well, and who was actually on an In Session episode a few years ago. Her daughter has made huge strides since then. Mom is saying the right things and staying out of the content of the worry, but both mom and daughter are still being bossed around by the Worry’s daily questioning. What’s the next step? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A listener writes that her son was ill on the bus last year as a kindergartner and is now saying he doesn’t want to go to school at all. How does Mom know if she’s helping or accommodating his worry? How does she get him on the bus? In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk about handling back-to-school jitters with validation, fun contests, and using the momentum of summer successes. Plus, the dreaded pressure of junior year and how teens and parents can shift away from the rigidity that comes with it. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s a new school year, the natural time for a review and a reset. And to help with this, Lynn and Robin are focusing on how to promote your child’s autonomy, value (and tolerate) the experiences of struggle and failure, and—in this age of intrusion—how to step back with love. What does your child need to do more independently and can you get out of the way? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We often talk about accommodating children’s anxiety, but what happens when an adult in your life demands it? If you’ve ever been told by a relative, a colleague, your best friend that THEIR anxiety requires YOUR cooperation, this episode is for you. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the last of the 7-episode Anxiety Disruptor series, it’s time to put it all together and focus on the consistent, step-by-step approach to decreasing anxiety’s influence. Consider this a pep talk, as Lynn describes the importance of how to put a plan in place (and even write it down!), combining patience with inevitable missteps, and embracing the ongoing process. Now that all seven episodes are live, it's a great time to go back and review the earlier episodes in the series. The 7 Essential Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #1 Expect To Worry The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #2 How to Talk To Your Kid's Worry (And Your Own) The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #3 get uncomfortable on purpose The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #4 The Correct Way To Use Breath The 7 Anxiety Disruptors for Families: #5 When Bribing Works The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #6 Building Self Esteem Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices